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electric_blue68

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25. I thought I rsponded to you soon after you posted...but maybe it stayed in Preview and not posted...

Reply to Ziggysmom (Original post)

Wed Feb 11, 2026, 07:56 PM

21 hrs ago

I so wanted to say you shouldn't blame yourself!
Things were now ot of your hands, and a lawyer should probably seriously check into events.

Like another said poster said:
remember that hand squeeze!

I also was intending to post that I hope you have some family, or friends near by to support you.

A day, an hour a minute at a time with such a shocking series of incidents ending in the worse event.

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I feel responsible [View all] Ziggysmom Yesterday OP

honestly, I would get a lawyer Skittles Yesterday #1

Yes, it always seems so sudden. Figarosmom Yesterday #2

yes Skittles Yesterday #4

You need all your energy for you right now. I'm sure no one will be offended... 3catwoman3 Yesterday #3

I hope that you can be at peace. essaynnc Yesterday #5

This is not your fault Bayard Yesterday #6

I am so very sorry Ziggysmom, JMCKUSICK Yesterday #7

My deepest condolences, Ziggysmom. HeartsCanHope Yesterday #8

I wish we could all hug you, literally. Not just with words. calimary Yesterday #9

It's hard not to feel guilty when you lose a loved one who depended are your care and judgement. Ilikepurple Yesterday #10

I am so sorry. It is not your fault. You did what should have been best for him; LoisB Yesterday #11

You are in our prayers RainCaster Yesterday #12

Ziggysmom, you are not responsible. Prairie_Seagull Yesterday #13

Holding you in love and light. Remember that your DU family is here niyad Yesterday #14

My heart goes out to you stage left Yesterday #15

Do not blame yourself, you did everything you could. Grumpy Old Guy Yesterday #16

i'm so sorry this happened. orleans Yesterday #17

Please allow yourself some grace. 10 Turtle Day Yesterday #18

Sending you light and love Ziggysmom. mnhtnbb Yesterday #19

You did what you could with what was available. OldBaldy1701E Yesterday #20

🕯💙🌷 quaint Yesterday #21

I am so sorry. Solly Mack Yesterday #22

Oh, Ziggysmom. I am so sorry for you and your husband. May the memories of your dear husband be a blessing to you. Love, debm55 Yesterday #23

Please say to yourself some_of_us_are_sane Yesterday #24

I thought I rsponded to you soon after you posted...but maybe it stayed in Preview and not posted... electric_blue68 21 hrs ago #25

I am very sorry. I cannot change how you feel about your role, but in my opinion you did everything I would have done. NNadir 21 hrs ago #26

Yu did right SuzyandPuffpuff 21 hrs ago #27

My deepest sympathy. Yes, see an attorney. sinkingfeeling 21 hrs ago #28

Peace. cachukis 21 hrs ago #29

You did nothing wrong Alice Kramden 21 hrs ago #30

Most nursing homes are drastically underfunded PoindexterOglethorpe 18 hrs ago #31

Memory care units are supposed to have more attentive care, not less, so please don't blame yourself. JudyM 17 hrs ago #32