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JMCKUSICK

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7. I am so very sorry Ziggysmom,

Reply to Ziggysmom (Original post)

Wed Feb 11, 2026, 01:15 AM

20 hrs ago

Please be as kind to yourself as your husband would have been. You made the very best decision with the best information at the time you made it.

You are not responsible for others failure to live up to their duties.

Hold that squeezed hand memory dear, it told you everything you needed from your husband.
If you are comfortable, what is his name?

You are blanketed with love from all of us here at DU

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I feel responsible [View all] Ziggysmom 21 hrs ago OP

honestly, I would get a lawyer Skittles 20 hrs ago #1

Yes, it always seems so sudden. Figarosmom 20 hrs ago #2

yes Skittles 20 hrs ago #4

You need all your energy for you right now. I'm sure no one will be offended... 3catwoman3 20 hrs ago #3

I hope that you can be at peace. essaynnc 20 hrs ago #5

This is not your fault Bayard 20 hrs ago #6

I am so very sorry Ziggysmom, JMCKUSICK 20 hrs ago #7

My deepest condolences, Ziggysmom. HeartsCanHope 20 hrs ago #8

I wish we could all hug you, literally. Not just with words. calimary 20 hrs ago #9

It's hard not to feel guilty when you lose a loved one who depended are your care and judgement. Ilikepurple 20 hrs ago #10

I am so sorry. It is not your fault. You did what should have been best for him; LoisB 19 hrs ago #11

You are in our prayers RainCaster 19 hrs ago #12

Ziggysmom, you are not responsible. Prairie_Seagull 19 hrs ago #13

Holding you in love and light. Remember that your DU family is here niyad 19 hrs ago #14

My heart goes out to you stage left 19 hrs ago #15

Do not blame yourself, you did everything you could. Grumpy Old Guy 19 hrs ago #16

i'm so sorry this happened. orleans 17 hrs ago #17

Please allow yourself some grace. 10 Turtle Day 15 hrs ago #18

Sending you light and love Ziggysmom. mnhtnbb 15 hrs ago #19

You did what you could with what was available. OldBaldy1701E 13 hrs ago #20

🕯💙🌷 quaint 11 hrs ago #21

I am so sorry. Solly Mack 11 hrs ago #22

Oh, Ziggysmom. I am so sorry for you and your husband. May the memories of your dear husband be a blessing to you. Love, debm55 11 hrs ago #23

Please say to yourself some_of_us_are_sane 6 hrs ago #24

I thought I rsponded to you soon after you posted...but maybe it stayed in Preview and not posted... electric_blue68 1 hr ago #25

I am very sorry. I cannot change how you feel about your role, but in my opinion you did everything I would have done. NNadir 1 hr ago #26

Yu did right SuzyandPuffpuff 1 hr ago #27

My deepest sympathy. Yes, see an attorney. sinkingfeeling 1 hr ago #28

Peace. cachukis 1 hr ago #29

You did nothing wrong Alice Kramden 1 hr ago #30