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Skittles

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4. yes

Reply to Figarosmom (Reply #2)

Wed Feb 11, 2026, 12:46 AM

Feb 11

and the lack of contact is inhumane and inexcusable

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I feel responsible [View all] Ziggysmom Feb 11 OP

honestly, I would get a lawyer Skittles Feb 11 #1

Yes, it always seems so sudden. Figarosmom Feb 11 #2

yes Skittles Feb 11 #4

You need all your energy for you right now. I'm sure no one will be offended... 3catwoman3 Feb 11 #3

I hope that you can be at peace. essaynnc Feb 11 #5

This is not your fault Bayard Feb 11 #6

I am so very sorry Ziggysmom, JMCKUSICK Feb 11 #7

My deepest condolences, Ziggysmom. HeartsCanHope Feb 11 #8

I wish we could all hug you, literally. Not just with words. calimary Feb 11 #9

It's hard not to feel guilty when you lose a loved one who depended are your care and judgement. Ilikepurple Feb 11 #10

I am so sorry. It is not your fault. You did what should have been best for him; LoisB Feb 11 #11

You are in our prayers RainCaster Feb 11 #12

Ziggysmom, you are not responsible. Prairie_Seagull Feb 11 #13

Holding you in love and light. Remember that your DU family is here niyad Feb 11 #14

My heart goes out to you stage left Feb 11 #15

Do not blame yourself, you did everything you could. Grumpy Old Guy Feb 11 #16

i'm so sorry this happened. orleans Feb 11 #17

Please allow yourself some grace. 10 Turtle Day Feb 11 #18

Sending you light and love Ziggysmom. mnhtnbb Feb 11 #19

You did what you could with what was available. OldBaldy1701E Feb 11 #20

🕯💙🌷 quaint Feb 11 #21

I am so sorry. Solly Mack Feb 11 #22

Oh, Ziggysmom. I am so sorry for you and your husband. May the memories of your dear husband be a blessing to you. Love, debm55 Feb 11 #23

Please say to yourself some_of_us_are_sane Feb 11 #24

I thought I rsponded to you soon after you posted...but maybe it stayed in Preview and not posted... electric_blue68 Feb 11 #25

I am very sorry. I cannot change how you feel about your role, but in my opinion you did everything I would have done. NNadir Feb 11 #26

Yu did right SuzyandPuffpuff Feb 11 #27

My deepest sympathy. Yes, see an attorney. sinkingfeeling Feb 11 #28

Peace. cachukis Feb 11 #29

You did nothing wrong Alice Kramden Feb 11 #30

Most nursing homes are drastically underfunded PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 11 #31

Memory care units are supposed to have more attentive care, not less, so please don't blame yourself. JudyM Thursday #32