The DU Lounge

With the help of a therapist, find that it is helpful to begin to work on understanding that you cannot change or control people, more specifically their thoughts, beliefs, actions or what they say or don’t say— especially those who have brought such painful abuse upon you. Further, No matter how
Much we hope or try or even pray, the aforementioned still rings true. But I believe there is more to work on. I find it is difficult to turn a ship around so quickly. This is indeed a big ship. Patterns are difficult to break, especially in such tragically abusive situations.
I also believe that a person who has endured abuse
Must learn to love themselves again and to understand that they are absolutely entitled and deserving to be treated with respect, dignity and love. This is very complicated but important work to be done so a person can move forward from a position of strength.. Again, this takes time AND it promotes self esteem and confidence. This is very important work that a good therapist can help with. I wish you success in your journey forward. Don’t let these abusers take your life’s joy. They’ve taken enough.