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I agree with the previous responders.
CUT THESE PEOPLE out of your life like skin cancer or a wart.
"Loving" your family or your enemy, (in this case they count as both) means to Respect, Offer Care and Compassion. This is not a feeling. It is a choice of MUTUAL CARE, MUTUAL RESPECT and MUTUAL COMPASSION. They have none. They are abusive and have therefore CUT The Family Tie that Bonds them to you.
ABUSIVE PEOPLE will continue to be abusive until 1) You die or 2) they die. You are a beloved child of God. You deserve to be Loved, respected, cared FOR and Offered Compassion... qualities that clearly are beyond their capacity or willingness to offer. They are more than likely BORDERLINE PERSONALITIES with narcisistic tendencies.
CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE. Walk away and don't look back. They will be upset and claim to be victims. The Abuser always claims THEY are the victims when their abuse is the reason for their own isolation.

Yes talk with your Therapist. I HIGHLY recommend that. I had to work out my parents abuse over a decade in therapy. AND I went to Seminary for SIX (6) Years - partially to detangle the abuse of other church leaders who said I had to stay and continue to take the abuse because it was "God's Plan". I SAY NOW - F__K that S--t" God's plan is not cruel or abusive. Walk Away and pursue LOVE, RESPECT, CARE & COMPASSION. You cannot heal people who continue to abuse you.

As OPERAH once said "You can love people AND be grateful they are NO LONGER IN YOUR LIFE."

Peace and Blessings and Wholeness in this Advent Season,
Radical Lutheran