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11. My husband hates the idea. Meanwhile, I hope to be able to afford it

Reply to CTyankee (Original post)

Sat Sep 20, 2025, 10:48 AM

Sep 20

My mother in law was in one and it was everything I'd need. Lots of amenities, really pretty grounds, cleaning service, shuttles to everything. Food wasn't the best but doable, like yours a choice of 2 meals per day. She was in her 90's so she didn't want to do all the things they offered: exercise classes, crafts, movies, lunch out at restaurants, trips to the grocery store, theme parties - the dang calendar was full of choices! I like the idea of being able to be alone in my space or in the company of others if I choose.

You are smart to think ahead!

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It looks like we'll be going into a "retirement community" pretty soon...two of my kids took me to a Masonicare Communit [View all] CTyankee Sep 18 OP

My mother lived in one for almost 20 years spinbaby Sep 18 #1

We're taking the tour also OutNow Sep 18 #2

choose a place that has staff that cannot be deported en masse by u know who nt msongs Sep 18 #3

I have relatives who moved to assisted living about 2 years ago Marthe48 Sep 18 #4

My Aunt Lived In One ProfessorGAC Sep 18 #5

just curious but Skittles Sep 18 #6

They are worried about us and how much of a toll it is taking on me to live independently. CTyankee Sep 19 #8

Do you have space in your home for a live in Yale (or other nearby college) student? mnhtnbb Sep 20 #12

No, at our advanced age that would be just putting off the inevitable andmight cause more problems than it's worth. CTyankee Sep 20 #14

Are there any nice ones in California? flamingdem Sep 18 #7

My mom lived in one in Napa Tree Lady Sep 19 #9

This message was self-deleted by its author Skittles Sep 19 #10

My husband hates the idea. Meanwhile, I hope to be able to afford it Phentex Sep 20 #11

Actually, my daughter crunched the numbers and found out that we pay more for living in our house than we will CTyankee Sep 20 #15

My aunt and uncle loved theirs TexasBushwhacker Sep 20 #13

We have a nice senior living care center BlueKota Sep 20 #16

I think the facility I am considering has a provision about pets. I will see it again tomorro and will report back here. CTyankee Sunday #17

That sounds wonderful about the BlueKota Sunday #18

Well, as I tell my kids and grandkids, "we're not dead yet." CTyankee Sunday #19