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MineralMan

(150,921 posts)
101. Some people respond as if it's not the real world people live in.
Fri Feb 13, 2026, 02:49 PM
12 hrs ago

In the real world, some strange man physically groping you in an elevator is a very dangerous assault if you are a woman. You have no idea what his intentions might be. Women, in general, are at a physical disadvantage in situations like that. Fortunately, she has apparently had some training in self defense. She used it to prevent any further assault and then exited the elevator ASAP.

She immobilized him and went one step further to make sure he could not attack her again. Perfectly justified in the circumstances. She escapes unharmed and he gets an object lesson through learning that not all women are helpless and weak. Perhaps, as you suggest, he will learn from this. I doubt it, though. Instead, he'll probably use more immediate force the next time.

I'm surprised that anyone is attempting to blame her for her actions. Screw that!

Good on her! 3catwoman3 14 hrs ago #1
Think? BidenRocks 13 hrs ago #52
Sadly true. niyad 12 hrs ago #96
Well, yes, there is that. 3catwoman3 12 hrs ago #97
It's all bdamomma 6 hrs ago #165
life can be challenging when you think with your dick. and so many of them do nt orleans 5 hrs ago #167
I had a biology professor in college that said something like that. WinstonSmith4740 1 hr ago #190
Good LetMyPeopleVote 14 hrs ago #2
Sorry, but from a legal standpoint, that's got to be excessive use of force. PeaceWave 14 hrs ago #3
Nah...and he won't report it anyhow. MineralMan 14 hrs ago #7
He was immobilized after the kick to his crotch. The knee to his head was overkill. PeaceWave 14 hrs ago #9
How was she to know that? I would have been scared to death that he would attack again in that closed space. AnotherMother4Peace 14 hrs ago #15
He never raised his head again after the kick to the crotch. He clearly was no longer a threat. PeaceWave 13 hrs ago #32
What leads you to assert a momentarily lowered head removes all threat? Torchlight 13 hrs ago #34
Are you really going to ask a sexual assault victim BidenRocks 13 hrs ago #60
I included an excerpt from the post I responded to Torchlight 13 hrs ago #61
Perhaps quotation marks might have avoided confusion. I knew niyad 12 hrs ago #92
Bet you that those who are trying to give the assaulter protection are not female. efhmc 12 hrs ago #102
Definitely. MorbidButterflyTat 11 hrs ago #115
You underestimate the danger she was in ninjanurse 9 hrs ago #133
Don't think he'll be pressing charges, but if he does, my money is on her. Joinfortmill 14 hrs ago #17
Maybe a little overkill is what he needed. GaYellowDawg 14 hrs ago #18
I am guessing that it must be difficult to be a woman within your circle of niyad 14 hrs ago #27
Absolutely! SheltieLover 13 hrs ago #49
What would Krusty Gnome have done?? BattleRow 13 hrs ago #66
Pulled out her gun? niyad 12 hrs ago #98
What man would touch Kristie Gnome? maxrandb 10 hrs ago #124
Well, there is at least one. Wednesdays 9 hrs ago #131
We can't count her plastic surgeon. :-) nt spooky3 4 hrs ago #175
By all reports: Corey Lewandowski ShazzieB 2 hrs ago #179
Nominated for best reply of the century. Maybe Ilsa 12 hrs ago #71
I am deeply honoured, thank you. My first reaction was unprintable. niyad 12 hrs ago #87
+1 leftstreet 12 hrs ago #108
+2 Permanut 11 hrs ago #118
Great response niyad Brenda 9 hrs ago #138
Thank you. It took a bit to write calmly! niyad 9 hrs ago #140
It's been sad to see apologists here for decades. Brenda 9 hrs ago #142
I am absolutely not surprised, coming from that one Skittles 2 hrs ago #181
So disappointingly true. niyad 2 hrs ago #185
Bravo! BlueSpot 2 hrs ago #182
Thank you. niyad 2 hrs ago #186
The Asshole was groping a woman in an elevator. MineralMan 13 hrs ago #69
I agree liberalgunwilltravel 12 hrs ago #95
Some people respond as if it's not the real world people live in. MineralMan 12 hrs ago #101
Thank you for mentioning training in self defense oberle 5 hrs ago #169
She made it quite clear after the 1st kacekwl 12 hrs ago #80
Nobody is immobilized by one woman's kick to the groin synni 12 hrs ago #88
No it wasn't and her defense was exactly as women are trained to do when being assaulted ms liberty 11 hrs ago #120
Not from my viewpoint Sanity Claws 14 hrs ago #10
The legal standard for self-defense allows individuals to use "reasonable, proportional force." PeaceWave 14 hrs ago #14
You wholly ignore 'Reasonable Fear' Torchlight 14 hrs ago #20
The fact that she was trapped & couldn't escape changed the situation, IMO. CrispyQ 14 hrs ago #29
....... bluestarone 13 hrs ago #38
And she reasoned that he needed a little more reason not to re-attack. MineralMan 12 hrs ago #74
Your concern for the sexual predator is noted. chia 11 hrs ago #119
if a guy touches me uninvited Skittles 2 hrs ago #183
Sorry, he had ample opportunity to act in an adult and civil manner Torchlight 14 hrs ago #11
He put hands on her mcar 14 hrs ago #22
He wasn't going to stop The Blue Flower 14 hrs ago #26
That's right mcar 6 hrs ago #160
He put his hands on her TWICE Seinan Sensei 13 hrs ago #45
She had every reason to believe he wouldn't stop mcar 6 hrs ago #161
Is there a legal limit on beating a potential rapist to the floor? I saw no blood, body parts were still attached irisblue 14 hrs ago #23
Even if in a place with a "duty to flee" IbogaProject 14 hrs ago #25
Not excessive at all Soul_of_Wit 14 hrs ago #30
If that was done to my Daughter or my Wife Seinan Sensei 13 hrs ago #50
Nope. She's got it on video. He was warned. thought crime 13 hrs ago #33
LOL don't you ever watch scary movies? leftstreet 13 hrs ago #40
Yeah. You're right. Too bad she wasn't wearing a stiletto, right? PeaceWave 13 hrs ago #43
Sorry. Your post is just so tone deaf leftstreet 13 hrs ago #48
Self-defense, not aggression. niyad 13 hrs ago #51
This is the problem. Self defense isn't a free pass for unlimited aggression. PeaceWave 13 hrs ago #57
What then is the precise point at which defense ends and aggression begins? Torchlight 13 hrs ago #59
see post 27 niyad 12 hrs ago #82
It's not a free pass for anything. Aristus 12 hrs ago #93
Unlimited aggression? MontanaMama 12 hrs ago #99
The problem is MorbidButterflyTat 11 hrs ago #117
Ah, correct! leftstreet 13 hrs ago #58
And I am so FUCKING PISSED at the misogynistic, patriarchal BS niyad 12 hrs ago #109
Misogyny is Patriarchy's oxygen leftstreet 11 hrs ago #110
Absolutely! SheltieLover 13 hrs ago #67
Stiletto to the eyes face would be an effective response. irisblue 12 hrs ago #84
There was a reason I used to wear 4-inch heels when I was in public. niyad 10 hrs ago #125
Stick him with a Hat Pin! BidenRocks 7 hrs ago #152
Very true. I don't wear hats, since my sunglasses are usually there if I niyad 7 hrs ago #156
There isn't a jury on this planet that would convict her. cloudbase 13 hrs ago #42
He was lucky she didn't pull out a pistol. Nt spooky3 13 hrs ago #70
Sadly, you are overly optimistic about juries. I have seen too many niyad 9 hrs ago #126
Indeed. Some of the posts beggar belief. cloudbase 9 hrs ago #127
Sadly true! niyad 9 hrs ago #129
It absolutely is not obamanut2012 13 hrs ago #53
If she were a man... Dear_Prudence 13 hrs ago #54
Killing him would have been excessive use of force Random Boomer 13 hrs ago #56
And I hope she reported him to the police. Nt spooky3 12 hrs ago #72
He put his hands on her. She had no idea what was next. Irish_Dem 13 hrs ago #62
What legal standpoint? fujiyamasan 13 hrs ago #65
Thank you for pointing that out. niyad 9 hrs ago #128
Not a problem fujiyamasan 9 hrs ago #145
I heard that some Japanese rail lines BidenRocks 7 hrs ago #157
This would be a good training video ! thought crime 5 hrs ago #171
She was trapped in a box with a man who assaulted her. LuckyCharms 13 hrs ago #68
"If she had killed him for it, she would have been justified." - Sorry, but no, she would not have been justified. PeaceWave 12 hrs ago #75
You're very wrong. LuckyCharms 12 hrs ago #77
No. I'm right and no amount of being upset at me (for raising the point) or the legal system (for being what it is)... PeaceWave 12 hrs ago #86
I think you're confusing rejections of your assertions with "being upset" Torchlight 12 hrs ago #90
Snicker Brenda 9 hrs ago #139
Oh, I'm not upset at all. LuckyCharms 12 hrs ago #100
She turned and pushed a button BidenRocks 7 hrs ago #158
See post 27. Keep digging that hole, dear heart. It is such a good look for you. niyad 9 hrs ago #130
If you are in that situation, you have every reason to believe someone is going to try and rape you. FascismIsDeath 2 hrs ago #189
"Excessive" would have been another two or three kicks to his nuts. GoCubsGo 12 hrs ago #76
Nope. MontanaMama 12 hrs ago #91
+1 for the blame comment. - nt CrispyQ 7 hrs ago #159
She should've shouted "but the DOW is over fifty thousand" Shambala 11 hrs ago #114
Snicker niyad 9 hrs ago #132
Public Service Notice ninjanurse 9 hrs ago #134
Not sure about this because she would surely have been in fear of her life. He assaulted her by PatrickforB 7 hrs ago #154
Well, if that had gone to trial and she was in the dock on assault charges, and I were on the jury... Jedi Guy 3 hrs ago #178
I don't think so. A man is bigger and stronger than a woman, so she would be justified in fearing that if she didn't tblue37 2 hrs ago #184
Hope she left some lasting damage dalton99a 14 hrs ago #4
And That's How You Do It! MineralMan 14 hrs ago #5
She really dealt with that assaulter but hope she also called security and police to protect other less capable women. MLAA 14 hrs ago #6
The fact that we are seeing the video... Soul_of_Wit 13 hrs ago #36
I'm pretty sure a lot of elevators have security cameras in them. MineralMan 12 hrs ago #78
That was the perfect place to put my last heart. 1WorldHope 14 hrs ago #8
K&R! Torchlight 14 hrs ago #12
Good for her! SheltieLover 14 hrs ago #13
Whoa, don't know if this is real, but I'm gonna use her moves! Joinfortmill 14 hrs ago #16
He (and Trump) need a dictionary that explain what "No!" means. Ping Tung 14 hrs ago #19
From 2016, apparently woman is a Beijing TV host and actress. betsuni 14 hrs ago #21
Thank you for this. I thought it looked a bit familiar. Still relevant. niyad 9 hrs ago #135
I wish more women/girls had more situational awareness. irisblue 14 hrs ago #24
A friend asked me once why I do not use headphones when I am niyad 13 hrs ago #39
Holy shit that was pretty badass! fujiyamasan 14 hrs ago #28
Bravo! You go, girl! Vinca 13 hrs ago #31
BRAVA!!! niyad 13 hrs ago #37
I do not know whether this was staged (as I remember a similar video niyad 13 hrs ago #35
Excessive force, Maj. Dude 13 hrs ago #41
Well done! UpInArms 13 hrs ago #44
This seems staged. However, IF this video teaches or inspires a woman to: flvegan 13 hrs ago #46
What more do we know about this? I think it looks like... QueerDuck 13 hrs ago #47
There is a (possibly apocryphal) story from many years ago in the London tube dickthegrouch 13 hrs ago #55
She was in danger with no ability to flee until the door opened Ritabert 13 hrs ago #63
And THAT, my dears, is how it is DONE!!!!! hamsterjill 13 hrs ago #64
I celebrate her quick reactions--and good aim! hlthe2b 12 hrs ago #73
Good for her. He has no business putting hands on her. She did excellent. Don't minimize. Srkdqltr 12 hrs ago #79
Possibly fake video Tasmanian Devil 12 hrs ago #81
Nope. That is a camera mounted in the ceiling of the elevator car. MineralMan 12 hrs ago #104
well, i guess i could smile at the camera next time i'm in an elevator -- but i don't think it'll show up very good orleans 5 hrs ago #168
Looks fake to me. There's a lot of this stuff getting posted in the "reels" Liberal In Texas 12 hrs ago #107
So.... MorbidButterflyTat 11 hrs ago #113
LOL! ShazzieB 2 hrs ago #180
Well done. It falls into the same category then as that bear in the forest question... PeaceWave 11 hrs ago #116
Wut? Brenda 9 hrs ago #147
And the only rec for this post calling it AI slop is Brenda 9 hrs ago #143
Please ... Tasmanian Devil 7 hrs ago #153
This looks so fake Chicagogrl1 12 hrs ago #83
It's fake. They're both amateur actors. Made to be click-bait and passed all over social media. Liberal In Texas 9 hrs ago #149
Fake or not, if only something like that had happened to a convicted 34-count... the nelm 5 hrs ago #170
I can't believe that the guy thought that would work. mjvpi 12 hrs ago #85
He got what's coming to him. bluescribbler 12 hrs ago #89
She did a fine job. Swede 12 hrs ago #94
should have kicked him once more when he was down moonshinegnomie 12 hrs ago #103
It looks rehearsed. Omnipresent 12 hrs ago #105
"She allowed him...." MorbidButterflyTat 11 hrs ago #111
And if he came at her again when her back was against the wall, she could have been trapped. ShazzieB 7 hrs ago #151
Convince me this isn't staged misanthrope 12 hrs ago #106
Staged or scripted Tasmanian Devil 11 hrs ago #112
I don't care if it's staged or not. Dem_in_Nebr. 10 hrs ago #121
Yeah, even if it was staged or faked, I think it was informative. ShazzieB 2 hrs ago #187
And THAT is how it's done. Javaman 10 hrs ago #122
If i am alone on an elevator and a MineralMan 10 hrs ago #123
Used to be a tip of the Fedora. BidenRocks 5 hrs ago #173
I've watched the video a couple of times and IMO no jury would convict her LogDog75 9 hrs ago #136
FAFO Timewas 9 hrs ago #137
I also agree that no jury would convict her. HeartsCanHope 9 hrs ago #141
She was in an enclosed space with someone making unwanted advances, with no way to know how far he was going DFW 9 hrs ago #146
Right on. Tactical Peek 9 hrs ago #144
Not been Rebl2 9 hrs ago #148
Same here. And I did not get on an elevator if there was a lone man there. niyad 8 hrs ago #150
Think back to 2016 canetoad 7 hrs ago #155
That's about how old this staged video is. Hassin Bin Sober 6 hrs ago #162
Really? canetoad 6 hrs ago #163
I'll have to remember that move! ShazzieB 2 hrs ago #188
Women bdamomma 6 hrs ago #164
If real, she did exactly the right thing. chowmama 6 hrs ago #166
'Bought 9-10 years ago, my husband broke up a dude from hitting the dude's girlfriend. chouchou 5 hrs ago #172
She should have nailed him even more. Make him a eunuch. BigmanPigman 5 hrs ago #174
Good for her! ABC123Easy 4 hrs ago #176
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