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Bernardo de La Paz

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4. Getting married is fine, but just be certain to KEEP your name; don't change it.

Reply to applegrove (Original post)

Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:11 PM

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"Maiden name" and "married name" are outdated claptrap that should be discarded forthwith.

When I got married (for a while) my wife kept her name. She asked me what I thought about it and I shrugged my shoulders and said I thought it was fine.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] applegrove Monday OP

I got my birth certificate for free. BlueTsunami2018 Monday #1

Most states charge some money Diraven Monday #6

I have maintained for decades that married women assuming their husband's surname was a bad idea hlthe2b Monday #2

Love my husband SheLiberal Monday #12

My grand daughter kept her maiden name Tree Lady Monday #15

Don't forget the Dissolution of Marriage with name restoration flvegan Monday #3

Getting married is fine, but just be certain to KEEP your name; don't change it. Bernardo de La Paz Monday #4

Counties are charging women for copies of birth certificates, but not men? MichMan Monday #5

The men don't need real id to prove a former name. applegrove Monday #8

Still requires a birth certificate for a Real ID MichMan Monday #9

Sorry. I think they can use a passport or whatever applegrove Monday #14

They can use a passport for the Real ID also... SickOfTheOnePct Monday #18

Women don't have to change their name SickOfTheOnePct Monday #10

Big deal DiverDave Monday #7

My wife didn't change her name. Nor did I. hunter Monday #11

What did you use as ID when you voted? applegrove Monday #17

Real ID is not required to vote n/t SickOfTheOnePct Monday #19

No ID. California mail-in ballots. hunter Monday #20

Lucky you are. applegrove Monday #21

Anyone that changes their name needs additional documentation regarding the name change sl8 Monday #13

But the women need to change ID more often. They need Real ID more often. applegrove Monday #16