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applegrove

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Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:04 PM Monday

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I got my birth certificate for free. BlueTsunami2018 Monday #1
Most states charge some money Diraven Monday #6
I have maintained for decades that married women assuming their husband's surname was a bad idea hlthe2b Monday #2
Love my husband SheLiberal Monday #12
My grand daughter kept her maiden name Tree Lady Monday #15
Don't forget the Dissolution of Marriage with name restoration flvegan Monday #3
Getting married is fine, but just be certain to KEEP your name; don't change it. Bernardo de La Paz Monday #4
Counties are charging women for copies of birth certificates, but not men? MichMan Monday #5
The men don't need real id to prove a former name. applegrove Monday #8
Still requires a birth certificate for a Real ID MichMan Monday #9
Sorry. I think they can use a passport or whatever applegrove Monday #14
They can use a passport for the Real ID also... SickOfTheOnePct Monday #18
Women don't have to change their name SickOfTheOnePct Monday #10
Big deal DiverDave Monday #7
My wife didn't change her name. Nor did I. hunter Monday #11
What did you use as ID when you voted? applegrove Monday #17
Real ID is not required to vote n/t SickOfTheOnePct Monday #19
No ID. California mail-in ballots. hunter Monday #20
Lucky you are. applegrove Monday #21
Anyone that changes their name needs additional documentation regarding the name change sl8 Monday #13
But the women need to change ID more often. They need Real ID more often. applegrove Monday #16

BlueTsunami2018

(4,635 posts)
1. I got my birth certificate for free.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:08 PM
Monday

Just asked for it online. Was mailed within a week. Same with my SS card.

I’m pretty sure you can get whatever document you need fairly easy.

Diraven

(1,612 posts)
6. Most states charge some money
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:22 PM
Monday

My state of Arkansas charges $12 for a copy of a birth certificate. Nevada charges the most: $33.

hlthe2b

(111,490 posts)
2. I have maintained for decades that married women assuming their husband's surname was a bad idea
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:08 PM
Monday

That has always been the case for women professionals, and even my own father advised me on that score.

I know it gets tricky when children are expected to be a factor, but this disgraceful attack on women's voting rights says it all (as if there were not a zillion other assaults to be considered on that score).

SheLiberal

(72 posts)
12. Love my husband
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:40 PM
Monday

But I regret changing my name and encouraged my daughter not to do it.

Tree Lady

(12,759 posts)
15. My grand daughter kept her maiden name
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:02 PM
Monday

And her new husband who was raised badly by his father changed to hers.

flvegan

(65,300 posts)
3. Don't forget the Dissolution of Marriage with name restoration
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:10 PM
Monday

if they get divorced. Here in Florida, that means getting a certified copy of the recorded divorce ($$) IIRC.

Bernardo de La Paz

(58,838 posts)
4. Getting married is fine, but just be certain to KEEP your name; don't change it.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:11 PM
Monday

"Maiden name" and "married name" are outdated claptrap that should be discarded forthwith.

When I got married (for a while) my wife kept her name. She asked me what I thought about it and I shrugged my shoulders and said I thought it was fine.

MichMan

(16,000 posts)
5. Counties are charging women for copies of birth certificates, but not men?
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:15 PM
Monday

applegrove

(128,368 posts)
8. The men don't need real id to prove a former name.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:25 PM
Monday

Their name never changes.

MichMan

(16,000 posts)
9. Still requires a birth certificate for a Real ID
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:29 PM
Monday

At least I had to show one

applegrove

(128,368 posts)
14. Sorry. I think they can use a passport or whatever
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:59 PM
Monday

to vote no? Plus they don't have to change their Real ID when they marry or divorce.

SickOfTheOnePct

(8,671 posts)
18. They can use a passport for the Real ID also...
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:07 PM
Monday

...instead of a birth certificate and marriage certificate.

SickOfTheOnePct

(8,671 posts)
10. Women don't have to change their name
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:31 PM
Monday

And I'm curious as to how many women this actually affects.

DiverDave

(5,181 posts)
7. Big deal
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:23 PM
Monday

Cost me 25 for a birth certificate. But I changed states, so 100 for real ID.
Sounds like someone doesn't like women.
Blame someone else, how very adult.

hunter

(39,973 posts)
11. My wife didn't change her name. Nor did I.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:37 PM
Monday

I haven't got a "Real ID" and nobody has forced me to get one yet.

The whole thing offends me.

applegrove

(128,368 posts)
17. What did you use as ID when you voted?
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:05 PM
Monday

SickOfTheOnePct

(8,671 posts)
19. Real ID is not required to vote n/t
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:08 PM
Monday

hunter

(39,973 posts)
20. No ID. California mail-in ballots.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:09 PM
Monday

These can be dropped off at polling places too.

applegrove

(128,368 posts)
21. Lucky you are.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:09 PM
Monday

sl8

(16,878 posts)
13. Anyone that changes their name needs additional documentation regarding the name change
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 05:48 PM
Monday

No doubt women that get married are the largest part of that cohort, but the additional documentation required for Real ID applies to anyone that legally changes their name.

Documentation might be marriage/divorce papers, adoption papers, court orders, etc..

I'm not aware of a different birth certificate requirement for married women than for anyone else.

applegrove

(128,368 posts)
16. But the women need to change ID more often. They need Real ID more often.
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 06:04 PM
Monday

So if they lose a birth certificate they need to get one more often than men. Because men's names never change so they don't have to be as careful with documentation.

I didn't think what I was posting was controversial.

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