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A bunch of know each other from other forums like the Cancer Support forum.

I'm dealing with EOL right now. I have Stage IV cancer that has spread from colon to lungs to adrenal glands and who knows what else. I was originally diagnosed 7 or 8 years ago. I've had lots of chemo and radiation (mainly chemo) but finally stopped it because the side effects were overtaking what little quality of life I had. Now I'm "in hospice" meaning, palliatively treated at home, but I'm still pretty functional but I see how it's catching up on me.

My wife has to deal with my upcoming loss, whenever that is. My son will too, as will my mother. I have brothers as well. It will still be a mess, but I'm trying to get some peace of mind by putting whatever I can in place to ease the transition (I just mean, wills, powers of attorney, computer instructions, etc.) so it's not a major legal mess for those left behind.

I've reached a general point of acceptance. Not every day, but in general. I've done a lot in my life - still have more I'd like to do, but I'm not unhappy with what I've accomplished, and generally accepting. Now I have to help my family get through it too. There's a whole network issue too, since my mother herself is nearing her EOL, but that might not be for a while yet, but there's multiple layers.

Anyone here is welcome to PM me, and if you want to talk privately, ask and I can get you my phone number.

Issues right now have to do with pain management, insurance, finances, etc.

Peace to all of you

- Tab