Elder-caregivers

Laurelin

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26. I'm sorry you're going through this

Reply to LudwigPastorius (Original post)

Fri Feb 14, 2025, 03:50 PM

Feb 2025

It was an awful thing to say. Sometimes old people just...I don't know, completely lose it. Even if they don't have dementia, there are things that happen when their bodies aren't working right, TIAs, crazy blood sugar drops, just.... issues. Obviously I'm not a medical person but I've had to deal with a number of older people and sometimes they just say crazy things one minute and seem fine the next. If you can, try to remember that it's not about you and it's not your fault, and then try to forget it.

Take care of yourself.

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My mom said the worst thing she's ever said to me. [View all] LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 OP

This message was self-deleted by its author Sector 001 Feb 2025 #1

Pretty damn judgmental NoRethugFriends Feb 2025 #5

Maybe her dx has something to do with the verbal abuse? SheltieLover Feb 2025 #2

Good idea about the meds. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #11

In the meantime, we are here for you SheltieLover Feb 2025 #18

Thanks so much, SheltieLover. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #20

YW! SheltieLover Feb 2025 #23

It's not about you. Remember that. WheelWalker Feb 2025 #3

I didn't take the bait. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #6

Coming up on 7 years for me MotownPgh Feb 2025 #9

Yeah, I didn't engage with her after that. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #12

If she has dementia, then you need to deal with it, or she needs to be in a facility. NoRethugFriends Feb 2025 #4

No cognitive impairment, she's just spiteful at times. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #13

I'm sorry. I know that hurt you.nt Trueblue Texan Feb 2025 #7

Thanks. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #14

I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Feb 2025 #8

Thanks XanaDUer2 LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #15

Maybe she is depressed and would do better with some meds to make her happier. applegrove Feb 2025 #10

I know she's having a hard time, but I doubt she... LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #16

That is so hard. applegrove Feb 2025 #17

I'm sorry you had to experience that LP Clouds Passing Feb 2025 #19

Thanks LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #21

That was a very crappy thing for her to say to you, very crappy! Clouds Passing Feb 2025 #22

So sorry you are on the,receiving end Fresh_Start Feb 2025 #24

Yeah, nobody knows which buttons to push like family. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #25

I'm sorry you're going through this Laurelin Feb 2025 #26

Thanks. LudwigPastorius Feb 2025 #27

Ask her if she would prefer a nursing home... 1monster Feb 2025 #28

You are not alone... Mike Nelson Feb 2025 #29

It sounds like she needs a visit to respite care. Hope22 Feb 2025 #30

Ouch😣 1WorldHope Feb 2025 #31