What to look for when 'shopping' for an independent/assisted living facility [View all]

It's finally time to move my 99 year old stepdad and 90 year old mom out of their house. They still live independently by themselves but my stepdad's health has deteriorated. He gets confused easily and overall requires more care. My mom is the full-time caregiver, chauffeur, cook, pays the bills,...

Unfortunately, I don't think my stepdad will qualify for independent living and will have to go to assisted living, whereas my mom is still totally independent.

They live in Titusville, FL and there are no options there so I am thinking somewhere around central/north Florida: New Smyrna, Gainesville, Jacksonville or anywhere NE of Orlando.

My mom's sister moved into a 'buy in' independent/assisted living community in Lancaster, PA and loves it but considering their age I don't know if a 'buy in' is the best option.

ANY help is greatly appreciated since I have no idea of where to begin.