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NYC_SKP

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10. For some, all you do never seems like enough.
Tue Nov 25, 2014, 10:41 PM
Nov 2014

My mom and step-dad were different in this respect.

I'd drop by every day on the way home from work, they'd hired a helper to cook, etc., as my mom was permanently in a chair and dad was weak.

I was not about to build a fire with firewood every day after work when I wasn't able to find time to keep my own house in good repair.

When I build a fire, he'd complain, if I said no he'd complain, there was no pleasing him.

I also was the chief repair person for them. Sure, I could fix anything but resorted to having them call repair people that I would find for them.

Work on it, you can make it better but you'll have to assert yourself, control the time you're there, be clear about it throughout-- "I just came by to say hi and I have about an hour if you need anything, but no more than an hour".

And maybe try to get used to them not being happy about it.

It's your life, Aerows, not theirs!

You're a good child, they're lucky and don't know it.

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I think some of us do, yes. NYC_SKP Nov 2014 #1
I don't know what is going on with me Aerows Nov 2014 #3
When I feel crazy, helpless, overwhelmed, I review some Cognitive Behavior Theory materials. NYC_SKP Nov 2014 #5
My elderly, just retired parents Aerows Nov 2014 #6
I read your other reply about that. NYC_SKP Nov 2014 #7
There is that element of ... Aerows Nov 2014 #9
For some, all you do never seems like enough. NYC_SKP Nov 2014 #10
I am absolutely Aerows Nov 2014 #12
I don't know about OCD or autistic behavior, elleng Nov 2014 #2
I've totally lost it twice this month Aerows Nov 2014 #4
Don't beat yourself up too bad libodem Nov 2014 #13
Thank you for that Aerows Nov 2014 #15
I think you were genuinely angry libodem Nov 2014 #21
I'm sorry, I just needed to vent Aerows Nov 2014 #8
You're entitled to feel this way, elleng Nov 2014 #11
The last blow up Aerows Nov 2014 #14
Oh dear Aerows, elleng Nov 2014 #16
I'm "His only boy" Aerows Nov 2014 #17
Oh, dear Aerows, elleng Nov 2014 #18
My sister is wiser than me Aerows Nov 2014 #19
NOT 'much better!' elleng Nov 2014 #20
I am having a tough time Aerows Mar 2015 #24
Please TAKE CARE elleng Mar 2015 #25
don't be mad at yourself olddots Nov 2014 #22
I'm struggling with autism Aerows Mar 2015 #23
having a bad week here. mopinko Mar 2015 #26
I hope things get better for you, Mopinko Aerows Mar 2015 #27
yeah drifting gets old fast, tho. mopinko Apr 2015 #28
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