2016 Postmortem

and certain behaviors by men have been very normalized to them, and this means people they love talk this way(not full on but in that realm), like their father's, uncles and brothers...and the women in their lives accept their role. They should not be shamed for this...I don't see how that kind of thing would help. We should continue to pick at whether or not that sort of behavior has to be normal. We should continue to show them their value so that they don't let it be defined by their unfortunate role models. There's no reason to shit on people who themselves are victims to some extent of institutional sexism.

We can certainly do our own hating on people and I can understand the inclination. We can't change people's minds that way, and worse, it only obscures the root cause when we blanketly assume stupidity or malice. Ignorance is a huge component of lack of empathy. Finding fault in people isn't appreciative of the mechanisms that reinforce that ignorance. It just ensures that when the people on top seek to divide us, we support them in their efforts.