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Bereavement

cksmithy

(471 posts) Mon Feb 2, 2026, 05:53 PM Monday

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My older sister died 20 years ago today. [View all]

Even though she was only four years older than me, she was more like my mother than my our real mother. She was my friend, my confident and always had time to talk to me. She had a very rough childhood (we both did), but she could make me laugh and we could cry together. I miss her so much. We saw The Beatles four times, twice in one day. She was only 59 when she died, complications from her MS medications. When new medications are available and they talk about side effects, including death, it is true. Her doctors said her brain cancer was directly related to her meds.

I just wanted to honor her. I have never started a discussion, always respond to other member's post, but my sister was a wonderful person who I miss and love everyday.

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My older sister died 20 years ago today. [View all] cksmithy Monday OP

Deepest condolences. SheltieLover Monday #1

Thank you. cksmithy Monday #8

Sending hugs on this sad anniversary date. May the livetohike Monday #2

Thank you cksmithy Monday #9

Wonderful tribute, thanks.. Permanut Monday #3

Thank you. I always think of my sister, especially when I hear Twist and Shout sung by the Beatles. cksmithy Monday #10

That's good for a smile every time. Permanut Monday #34

You have honored your sister's memory very well. brer cat Monday #4

Thank you. cksmithy Monday #11

I hear you KT2000 Monday #5

Yes we were. cksmithy Monday #7

"I just wanted to honor her." And so you have. 3catwoman3 Monday #6

Thank you. cksmithy Monday #12

Thank you for sharing this. It means so much delisen Monday #13

Thank you, she did bring warmth to me. I light a candle for her every year, a little warmth. cksmithy Monday #14

Thank you for this testimonial, cksmithy. calimary Monday #15

Thank you. She is definitely frolicking, she took her tap shoes with her. cksmithy Monday #27

Condolences. Your post was a lovely tribute and I believe your sister is smiling. Best. c-rational Monday #16

Thank you. cksmithy Monday #23

I am sorry for your loss. stage left Monday #17

Thank you. Yes she was. Second born, first daughter, she was a real mom to me and my three younger siblings. cksmithy Monday #24

I am so so sorry irisblue Monday #18

Thank you. cksmithy Monday #25

So sorry IbogaProject Monday #19

Thank you. cksmithy Monday #26

To beloved sisters! Wild blueberry Monday #20

Thank you. Her memory is a blessing I keep close to my heart. cksmithy Monday #28

Your beloved sister Clouds Passing Monday #21

Thank you. I light a candle for her every year too. cksmithy Monday #29

Reminded me of my older sister Jarqui Monday #22

Thank you. I don't think anybody could hear the Beatles at a Beatles concert, but it was fun and a wonderful memory. cksmithy Monday #30

I am sorry for your loss, but know, she'll always be with you, in heart and spirit. Fla Dem Monday #31

Thank you. cksmithy Monday #33

You were blessed to have a wonderful sister Grim Chieftain Monday #32

Thank you. cksmithy Monday #35

Sending you hugs and warm thoughts ❤️ MLAA Monday #36

Thank you. cksmithy Tuesday #43

I am sorry for your loss. It sounds as if she was a lovely big sister. The fact LoisB Monday #37

Dear cksmithy, I am so sorry for your loss. MIButterfly Monday #38

Thank you. cksmithy Tuesday #44

That is a beautiful tribute DeeDeeNY Monday #39

Thank you. cksmithy Tuesday #45

You were very lucky to have such a sister. She sounds amazing. applegrove Monday #40

Thank you. cksmithy Tuesday #46

Thank you Dear_Prudence Monday #41

Thank you. cksmithy Tuesday #47

Really beautiful tribute to your sister JudyM Tuesday #42

Thank you. cksmithy Tuesday #48

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