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Easterncedar

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22. This is something that resonates (smiley face) with me
Sat Apr 15, 2023, 12:39 PM
Apr 2023

From so long ago, I don’t remember where I got it:

I know there are a whole lot of people here who have also lost someone who was utterly irreplaceable, some very recently. This really helped me. I hope it helps you. I'm not sure of the original source, but it is, basically, a eulogy from a physicist.
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You want a physicist to speak at your funeral. You want the physicist to talk to your grieving family about the conservation of energy, so they will understand that your energy has not died. You want the physicist to remind your sobbing mother about the first law of thermodynamics; that no energy gets created in the universe, and none is destroyed. You want your mother to know that all your energy, every vibration, every Btu of heat, every wave of every particle that was her beloved child remains with her in this world. You want the physicist to tell your weeping father that amid energies of the cosmos, you gave as good as you got.

And at one point you'd hope that the physicist would step down from the pulpit and walk to your brokenhearted spouse there in the pew and tell him that all the photons that ever bounced off your face, all the particles whose paths were interrupted by your smile, by the touch of your hair, hundreds of trillions of particles, have raced off like children, their ways forever changed by you. And as your widow rocks in the arms of a loving family, may the physicist let her know that all the photons that bounced from you were gathered in the particle detectors that are her eyes, that those photons created within her constellations of electromagnetically charged neurons whose energy will go on forever.

And the physicist will remind the congregation of how much of all our energy is given off as heat. There may be a few fanning themselves with their programs as he says it. And he will tell them that the warmth that flowed through you in life is still here, still part of all that we are, even as we who mourn continue the heat of our own lives.

And you'll want the physicist to explain to those who loved you that they need not have faith; indeed, they should not have faith. Let them know that they can measure, that scientists have measured precisely the conservation of energy and found it accurate, verifiable and consistent across space and time. You can hope your family will examine the evidence and satisfy themselves that the science is sound and that they'll be comforted to know your energy's still around. According to the law of the conservation of energy, not a bit of you is gone; you're just less orderly. Amen.
-Aaron Freeman

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'Except for people's memories of me.' elleng Apr 2023 #1
+1 progressoid Apr 2023 #8
Thanks! Here's one with an orchestra in performance progree Apr 2023 #23
Thank you. elleng Apr 2023 #24
I don't know anything for sure, but evidence is on your side... dchill Apr 2023 #2
We as humans (generally speaking) have an inherent proclivity to SURVIVE Hugh_Lebowski Apr 2023 #3
When the tantalizing becomes the real... dchill Apr 2023 #13
I have had many experiences over the years BigmanPigman Apr 2023 #4
What happens is that the living will perceive 'signs' as a result of grief/stress Hugh_Lebowski Apr 2023 #5
"W know why we are here now" Why? nt Samrob Apr 2023 #6
Sorry that was poorly phrased ... Hugh_Lebowski Apr 2023 #7
This atheist agrees. Still. Why do we imagine a distant past? Why science, beauty, stories, love? ancianita Apr 2023 #9
When I was 16 I had a long conversation with myself about the soul. cachukis Apr 2023 #10
The only ones who know for sure..... joshdawg Apr 2023 #11
Actually there is some excellent scientific research on this topic. Irish_Dem Apr 2023 #12
Thank you!!!!! I've referred people to his writing before. Also, Your Eternal Self (which deals with Karadeniz Apr 2023 #15
Research by PhDs and MDs resonate the most with me, because I am a PhD Irish_Dem Apr 2023 #16
Since it seems to be hard wired in so many people Warpy Apr 2023 #20
Yes humans could be hard wired to have fantasy religious beliefs as a coping mechanism. Irish_Dem May 2023 #29
Okay, nothing wrong with 'no ruling anything out', being open-minded Hugh_Lebowski Apr 2023 #21
If you get a PhD you quickly learn how rigid and narrow the academic community tends to be. Irish_Dem May 2023 #30
Why didn't he win the Nobel prize? Farmer-Rick May 2023 #25
Because eastern religions already believe in reincarnation and have since ancient times. Irish_Dem May 2023 #31
Eastern Religions have no more proof or evidence than any other religion Farmer-Rick May 2023 #32
I see a lot of the same old reactions here. There's tons of evidence about the existence of Mind Karadeniz Apr 2023 #14
If one frees themselves from the bonds of time, Mr.Bill Apr 2023 #17
The list of things that humans once believed had origins in Gods and Magic is IMMENSE Hugh_Lebowski Apr 2023 #19
No offense taken, but that Japanese physicist... you know him... said there were eleven Karadeniz May 2023 #28
Well, if you got the evidence Farmer-Rick May 2023 #26
Memeory, likes and dislikes, outlook on life, all that stuff Warpy Apr 2023 #18
This is something that resonates (smiley face) with me Easterncedar Apr 2023 #22
I like to think when I visit my dead spouse's grave Farmer-Rick May 2023 #27
I don't want it ExWhoDoesntCare May 2023 #33
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