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OldBaldy1701E

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55. Here are some hugs for you.

Thu Jul 17, 2025, 07:48 AM

Jul 17

You did the correct thing. Sometimes, people have to be forced into reality. This may be one of those times.

It sucks and it hurts when it is family or someone who was close to you.

It is not your fault that they are in this position and it is not your responsibility to float a ship that has so many holes in it.

I hope he can find the help that he needs. I hope they both can.

But, I hope that you are now free of this drain on your life.

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