Mental Health Support

I could write the same thing regarding my son who was a problem but has totally changed for the better.

Now two of my grandkids are problems. And my brother's son is in the same boat.

One of my grandsons spends all his time trying to get on disability. He is 30 and if he spent as much time working as he does making excuses, he would be rich by now

My other grandson was coddled as the teachers did all they could to get him across the graduation line in HS even though he never did an ounce of work. BIG MISTAKE! So far he has been fired once, just got his license to drive and already has five traffic violations, police and judges let him off as he is very charming. He refuses to help with family expenses. He is very disrespectful to both parents and lies continually. He is 19.

And my friend has a daughter who refuses to work. She inherited $40,000 which, in his words, she "sniffed up her nose" and is living in subsidised housing and is about to get evicted for repeatedly violating the rules. He swears he will do no more, but he sends more money when she needs it...

Another friend had a son who was a real problem. He told me he put him in some kind of program and when he came out he was totally changed. He said they hugged and cried and things were so different. About a year later he told me the kid met a girl and they were going to get married! He said she was a sweet woman and he looked forward to having her as a daughter-in-law. At a futher point in time I asked how things were going. He became quite sad and said he hadnt heard from either one, so when he couldnt get in touch with his son he called her. Turns out he left her without saying a word but cleaning our their shared bank account in the process

You say
" i have dealt with this kid since middle school. Since he's been an "adult" I have bailed him out and bought at least 2 cars, paid for a lawyer ...and most recently, brought him and his GF (and her baby, 2yoF) back out here from Kansas."

i have found the more you come to their rescue the worse they become. And i think many adults are the same way.

Let them fall and hit the ground..then they will learn..