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FirstLight

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27. Thanks for all the support DU Family! Many wise words and hugs ..thank you

Wed Jul 16, 2025, 02:28 PM

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I am so very grateful for those wise words from many of you. And I am definitely humbled to know I am not the only one.

At least I had practice, my oldest son shut me out when I told him and his GF to GTFO of my house when he got in my face and tried to do that "intimidating male" thing. He was 18. and they never forgave me. Even after they got married and had 2 kids (grandchildren I will never know) and she ended up leaving him...he's 30 and lives in the same small town, but doesn't speak to me. He works at the post office and the last tme I went in he waited on me and said MAYBE 3 words for the whole transaction.. so I've DONE my cryioing over him and I guess that makes it easier to let the youngest one go his own way. If he wants to be like his older brother and pretend he doesn't have a mom ...that's not my problem, that his THERAPIST's roblem

I'm done holding my breath for acknowledgement on Mother's Day, My Bday, etc... I know how much I gave up and sacrificed to be a single mom for pretty much my ENTIRE adult life! Now it's MY turn!

huge hugs for those of you in the same boat. We're gonna be FINE!

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