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NCgayguy

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20. I should have been more clear with you.

Sun May 25, 2025, 03:44 PM

May 25

Tommy passed away on Jan 1st, 2025, this year from pancreatic cancer. He passed in our home, in my arms. My life will never be the same. Though I have lurked on here for years, I joined DU thinking it would distract me from the trauma and the grief I am going through. It can be an escape for me at times but the reality is, I'm lost now. All I know how to do is to take care of Tommy and our home. I won't go into more personal detail but things are really difficult for me now. You could not have known so don't feel bad, please!

As I said, reading and responding to your reply gave me comfort. I owe you gratitude for that!
Sincerely,
Reis

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My Experience with the LGBTQ+ Activism [View all] NCgayguy May 24 OP

I came of age right at the beginning of the AIDS crisis sdfernando May 24 #1

I know your anger too well! NCgayguy May 24 #3

You are here Keepthesoulalive May 24 #7

Thank you! NCgayguy May 24 #10

Thank you NCgayguy! sdfernando May 25 #18

I should have been more clear with you. NCgayguy May 25 #20

Oh No! I'm so very sorry. sdfernando May 25 #22

Thank you. NCgayguy May 26 #27

My reply is to support you and your beloved husband, my dear Reis. CaliforniaPeggy May 24 #2

As do I. I hope for the day that ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc. all become LoisB May 24 #5

Amen! From you lips to ......... NCgayguy May 24 #9

That means so much, truly! NCgayguy May 24 #6

Thank you for posting this. Sometimes, things get better and many forget what it took to get LoisB May 24 #4

Hi LoisB! NCgayguy May 24 #8

Those of us who lived through those times are obligated to remember and pass along LoisB May 25 #14

I've bookmarked this thread JMCKUSICK May 25 #11

Thank you! NCgayguy May 25 #15

Welcome to DU Figarosmom May 25 #12

What a beautiful response! NCgayguy May 25 #16

Yes!!! I grew up in the Bay Area and spent a lot of time in SF. I hate that people paint boomers as all one thing. 58Sunliner May 25 #13

Well said! NCgayguy May 25 #17

came out @ age 16. my late mom knew all along. AllaN01Bear May 25 #19

Thank you! NCgayguy May 25 #21

I also marched on DC in '87... AntiFascist May 25 #23

Thank you! NCgayguy May 26 #25

Reagan ignored this on purpose gay texan May 26 #24

I whole heartedly agree! NCgayguy May 26 #26