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LadyHawkAZ

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10. They missed the huge, glaring category of sexuality/sexual expression
Mon Mar 18, 2013, 04:20 PM
Mar 2013

I can't think how: it's got to be the most obvious example.

This is presented in a gender framework but it's not an exclusively gender-related problem. No one, no matter their sex, race, religion, or other affiliation, really likes to give up something that benefits them, even if it benefits them at the expense of other people. You can see this everywhere from class issues to marriage equality to American exceptionalism- both people as individuals and societies as a whole tend to be self-centered and egocentric, and it's hard to convince them to give up something that either makes their lives easier or sets them above another rival group. We've structured our societies to encourage this attitude, and unfortunately there's no quick or easy solution to it, even though everyone seems to expect one to pop up.

With regards to the specific gender-related privilege issues, I have faith that we will eventually figure it out and start working together towards a truly equal, balanced society, but it's not going to be for a while yet, not while we're still dealing with the fallout from the attitudes of the past. It's going to require unified effort as well as time, and right now we don't have anything resembling unity. If we give it a couple of generations and keep working towards the goal, things will change. We are a transitional generation, with the usual transitional problems; people need to keep that in mind.

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in the war catagorie also "men start wars"- the men who were voted in by the majority female voter leftyohiolib Mar 2013 #1
File this under "shit you didn't learn in school" lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #3
only if there were exactly the same number of men as women but that's not the case leftyohiolib Mar 2013 #4
I used to see men as being favored over women... fadedrose Mar 2013 #2
i dont blame wymyn, and i think that any blame like "it's all the woman's fault" is too simplistic leftyohiolib Mar 2013 #9
This message was self-deleted by its author Dash87 Mar 2013 #18
"AUTOMATED MESSAGE: Results of your Jury Service" ... You are not alone! In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #5
Thanks! Bonobo Mar 2013 #6
Bonobo. I look to find the best in everyone. If I want the dark side it is also there. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #11
Seems there's some tourists about theKed Mar 2013 #7
I think it's interesting that both of the ones who would hide it... lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #8
Is that called "womansplaining?" when they do that? Gore1FL Mar 2013 #14
why don't you tell everyone why? Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #15
Ahhh! You are mansplaining to me about mansplaining womansplaining. Gore1FL Mar 2013 #16
Boss!! opiate69 Mar 2013 #17
They missed the huge, glaring category of sexuality/sexual expression LadyHawkAZ Mar 2013 #10
I don't know if that's a universal truth: I think people- not all people, all the time, but many- Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #12
Nothing's ever universal; there's always going to be exceptions LadyHawkAZ Mar 2013 #13
Women can't hear what men don't say. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #19
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