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Reply to La Lioness Priyanka (Reply #16)

Tue Mar 27, 2012, 01:45 PM

Mar 2012

>>Friends and family will tell you: Marriage is work. Keeping two people in a fulfilling relationship is difficult, while adultery comes naturally, the CrimethInc Collective write in Briarpatch. The problem, according to the article that "borrows liberally" from Against Love by Laura Kipnis, is that marriage turns relationships into “a domestic factory policed by rigid shop-floor discipline designed to keep wives and husbands chained to the machinery of responsible reproduction.”

Marriage resembles a market system, according to the article: “your intimacy is governed by scarcity, threats, and programmed prohibitions, and protected ideologically by assurances that there are no viable alternatives.”<<

http://www.utne.com/Mind-Body/Defending-Adultery-Gordon.aspx#ixzz1qLAMXMC3

Female-female and male-male romantic relationships are traditionally illegitimate and so (in contrast to heterosexual relationships that are governed by all kinds of traditions, family expectations, social climbing ambitions, etc.), there are no (traditional) guides on how to relate to your same-sex partner, it's all kind of ad hoc.

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Women and bi sexual men [View all] tech_smythe Feb 2012 OP

I've tried to make my husband bisexual like me Neoma Feb 2012 #1

It seems to me that it would be hard to consider one's self both monogamous and bisexual. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2012 #2

That is absolutely absurd. racaulk Mar 2012 #10

.................... Whoa_Nelly Mar 2012 #11

this is consistent with your overall level of ignorance CreekDog Mar 2012 #12

Probably timing and context have a great deal to do with it. And what circles you run in. Warren DeMontague Feb 2012 #3

Well for one i'd never be seen dead in alabama, church or no... tech_smythe Feb 2012 #4

i hear my bi male friends complain about this a lot La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2012 #5

It is a a troubling difference. white_wolf Mar 2012 #6

And you shouldn't have to. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2012 #7

One thing about the gay community that pisses me of is their attitude towards bi's tech_smythe Mar 2012 #8

I am female but I know what you're talking about. MadrasT Mar 2012 #9

I think Lioness and others have it. It's about HIV/AIDS and the idea that you won't be stevenleser Mar 2012 #13

Part of the double standard might be noamnety Mar 2012 #14

Because Western women are taught to possess the men they are with. closeupready Mar 2012 #15

if this were a female things, wouldn't lesbians be this way? La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2012 #16

No, because the underlying relationship serves capitalism. closeupready Mar 2012 #17

Here's a typical passage after a quick google: closeupready Mar 2012 #18

I think it was in a Jonathan Katz collection of essays closeupready Mar 2012 #19

lol La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2012 #20