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However, I think it's disingenuous to expect that sort of thing to go away, and I think it is a bit silly overreact to it. He asked her to his room for coffee. She said no. She felt uncomfortable. He perhaps could have done a better job of picking a spot to ask, but, by all accounts, he wasn't physically menacing, he asked, she said no, end of story.

I feel uncomfortable when homeless people ask me for money and I'm broke, sometimes. Sometimes human interaction is tricky, or uncomfortable-making.

I do not agree that asking a woman "would you like to have coffee with me" makes a guy a "jerk". He asked, she said no. Why is he a jerk? If he hadn't gracefully accepted the rejection, that would be a jerky move.

Let me add this; I'm not claiming to be the best looking guy alive but in my life I have certainly had my share of women- strangers- chat me up, flirt, proposition me, etc. (Hell, once I was at a show and a beautiful woman came up and basically groped me, before walking away. Now THAT was an invasion of personal space! ...I suspect she was on some sort of substance.) This is what people do. It's how they interact. It happens. Saying "I would like to go out with you" is not being a jerk, as long as you're cool with the fact that the person very well may say "no".