Men's Group

I did, back in the day. And no, I wasn't obnoxious about it. Sometimes got no, sometimes got yes.

I think the 'rapist/axe murderer calculus' is part of the problem, here. I mean, assuming that some guy in an elevator is a homicidal potential-if-not-probable violent criminal because he says something menacing like "do you want to have coffee with me"..

Look, I understand that some- many- women have generalized fears around men. And I understand why. (Maybe the elevator wasn't the best place to ask her out, although, again, it takes guts to ask out a stranger. And a lot of relationships- good ones, even- start that way.)

If, say, I find myself walking at night on a deserted city street near a woman, I adjust my body language and where I am, etc. to make it clear I'm not following her or some kind of threat. I'm not an asshole (despite my reputation). But I DO think there has been a tendency to go way overboard on this "ALL male sexual energy, interest, etc is inherently suspect and/or 'problematic'" notion.