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Bonobo

(29,257 posts) Fri Jun 5, 2015, 05:46 AM Jun 2015

An oldie but goodie: D-words and C-words [View all]

I asked one of my favorite posters and am not sure I will get a reply, but can someone here try to explain the argument for why it is okay to use a nickname for a male sexual organ as a pejorative against a person (implying that the negative qualities of the sex organ are akin to the negative qualities in the targeted person) but it is not okay to do the same thing with female sex organ nicknames.

I just want to hear the counter argument.

I am TRYING to understand, but it just seems to me to be a double standard and one side is screaming louder than the other/playing the victim card more than the other.

STILL... I do hear voices from some strong women on the board saying "Fuck that, don't pretend to be offended on my behalf! Women aren't that weak. They are STRONG!"

So...really, wtf?

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An oldie but goodie: D-words and C-words [View all] Bonobo Jun 2015 OP

Here is how it is presented. TM99 Jun 2015 #1

Taking this to a rational conclusion... TreasonousBastard Jun 2015 #2

This message was self-deleted by its author Petrushka Jun 2015 #7

Men have always been proud of their dicks, the bigger the better Nitram Jun 2015 #3

How could you REALLY know the emotional impact of both words from the POV of both genders? Bonobo Jun 2015 #4

I didn't say I did. Nitram Jun 2015 #5

No, but that is arguably the result of all the freak out so it is a circular thing. Bonobo Jun 2015 #6

Why didn't you just post your point of view instead of asking a question you think you already... Nitram Jun 2015 #8

I never said words don't have impact, did I? Bonobo Jun 2015 #9

On the contrary, you are being disingenuous at best. Nitram Jun 2015 #10

If you feel that you are currently in a "vitriolic shouting match" then you need lots Bonobo Jun 2015 #11

I used to enjoy vitriolic shouting matches Nitram Jun 2015 #12

Is that a question? Bonobo Jun 2015 #13

I've asked the same question of you twice in previous posts, and you haven't answered yet. Nitram Jun 2015 #14

Ironically, I answered your question already and Bonobo Jun 2015 #18

AUTOMATED MESSAGE: Results of your Jury Service ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jun 2015 #16

Wow, people are really, really trying to get me gone. Bonobo Jun 2015 #17

It might have something to do with your obvious lack of interest in conversation Nitram Jun 2015 #19

It might be, but the truth is that I enjoy conversation when I think that two opinions Bonobo Jun 2015 #20

Oh, you know it. Tried a long time with me (Gungeoneer), but has died off. No hides in 2+ yrs. Eleanors38 Jun 2015 #42

You know how it can be once you get on their lists. NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #48

How was that even close? NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #47

I don't see the huge difference Major Nikon Jun 2015 #15

I guess Nitram doesn't want to discuss it as much as he/she claims to. nt Bonobo Jun 2015 #21

The "community standards" reveal quite a bit on this Major Nikon Jun 2015 #22

I'd suggest the use of the words "dick" and "pussy" are roughly equivalent. Nitram Jun 2015 #23

Equivalent in that both are used as a pejorative against men and very rarely against women Major Nikon Jun 2015 #24

Aww, quit your whining. Nitram Jun 2015 #25

Which rights did you have in mind? lumberjack_jeff Jun 2015 #26

Lumberjack, haven't you noticed that the equal pay law is not being enforced? Nitram Jun 2015 #28

How many hours does the average full time woman work? lumberjack_jeff Jun 2015 #29

I give. How many? Nitram Jun 2015 #30

It's your claim. Maybe you should be able to back it up. n/t lumberjack_jeff Jun 2015 #31

It's my claim tht men work more hours than women? Nitram Jun 2015 #33

"Disingenuous" that word means something other than what you think it means. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2015 #35

The word means exactly what I think it means. Nitram Jun 2015 #36

The equal pay act does not guarantee anyone the same pay for the same job Major Nikon Jun 2015 #38

You hear that a lot on DU Major Nikon Jun 2015 #27

Visit the Gungeon for life beyond Dicks. Best encyclopedia around for the many Eleanors38 Jun 2015 #43

Obviously, there is no word for men's genitals that implies prayin4rain Jun 2015 #32

Pray4Rain, you've hit the nail on the head. Nitram Jun 2015 #34

I don't follow your analogy at all Major Nikon Jun 2015 #37

"Calling someone a dick is like calling them an asshole " Bonobo Jun 2015 #39

Welp, if that's what you feel like the word prayin4rain Jun 2015 #40

Either way the literal intent is to reduce someone's value to their genitals Major Nikon Jun 2015 #41

Good point, and worth reiterating. nt Eleanors38 Jun 2015 #44

I'm not following what you're saying. NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #46

"it just seems to me to be a double standard"... NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #45