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ProudToBeBlueInRhody

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14. She hasn't been proposed to yet by the man, it's supposed to be a surprise

Reply to Iris (Reply #13)

Fri Oct 31, 2014, 10:25 AM

Oct 2014

The tradition is you're supposed to ask the father, or both parents I thought nowadays, if it's OK first. That was the point of the OP, unless I missed something in translation and they got engaged before all that.

Again, don't ask me. I don't understand this marriage tradition crap.

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My best friend got engaged on Sunday... and... uhh... guys still do that? [View all] Sen. Walter Sobchak Oct 2014 OP

I wasn't given the chance... Veilex Oct 2014 #1

Both of my sons-in-law had talked to us before TexasMommaWithAHat Oct 2014 #7

Nah. Inkfreak Oct 2014 #2

I thought most men sat down with both parents now ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2014 #3

Where's the woman in that scenario? Iris Oct 2014 #11

I don't understand ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2014 #12

yes. Where's the bride? Iris Oct 2014 #13

She hasn't been proposed to yet by the man, it's supposed to be a surprise ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2014 #14

No - the tradition was the groom asked the father for permission Iris Oct 2014 #15

Historically, the reason the groom asked the father... Adrahil Jan 2015 #17

I didn't, for a few reasons fishwax Oct 2014 #4

i would have and wanted to but my wife and i dated for about 9 years so at that belzabubba333 Oct 2014 #5

I think most couples these days announce Jenoch Oct 2014 #6

They're both in their early 40's and never married Sen. Walter Sobchak Oct 2014 #8

It seems strange at that age. Jenoch Oct 2014 #9

Uhh... No Sen. Walter Sobchak Oct 2014 #10

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Nov 2014 #16