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Doctor_J

(36,392 posts)
10. I think this quote from the HoF is instructive
Tue Jun 17, 2014, 11:44 AM
Jun 2014
The issue is a matter of male sexual appetite. Which is more often than not excessive, aggressive...

And demeaning.


http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1139&pid=10345

And, soon thereafter, by the same member

The reality is clear: Every group on DU is a men's group.


It will be difficult for this group to become acceptable as long as DUers think of us in those terms, and are willing to express such opinions so blatantly. Also I believe that the outrage over the SI pictures and the celebrity pic threads is probably NOT something we want to try to assuage.

I have been married for 3 decades to an ardent feminist, who also happens to be beautiful and extremely accomplished in her professional life. My grown-up daughters are happy, successful, and in great relationships with good, trustworthy men. What I am trying to say is I am comfortable in my skin with the life I've led, and don't spend much time worrying about being accepted. I say post what you want to - prostate cancer, comfortable shoes, raising offspring of EITHER gender, deciding not to have a family, pet peeves about your partners (for some reason Mrs. D_J won't pee in the shower). Let those who want to do so participate, ignore the rest, and, as far as the violent rhetoric from the others, don't feed the trolls. We may remain an under-used group, but c'est la vie.

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Nothing can make this group acceptable to some people. JVS Jun 2014 #1
I think one of the things that's great here.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jun 2014 #2
Agreed on all points opiate69 Jun 2014 #3
Considering how little activity this group gets Blue_Adept Jun 2014 #4
I feel the small amount of activity is because of the vitriol. HuskiesHowls Jun 2014 #5
The vitriol is pervasive and verbally violent. n/t Darkhawk32 Jun 2014 #6
I think a lot of people have decided this group is unacceptable mokawanis Jun 2014 #7
The posts accusing you guys of being an MRA-fest are nearly all unjustified IMO. nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #9
ANY unjustified accusation that someone is a member of a hate group should be a bannable offense stevenleser Jun 2014 #15
"Should it be about the place of the liberal man in today's society? Where we stand as a collective? nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #8
I think this quote from the HoF is instructive Doctor_J Jun 2014 #10
I agree kjones Jun 2014 #11
That poster is actually a guy. And I don't always agree with him but he seems quite intelligent nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #12
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jun 2014 #13
I think it's imperative that this group is fulfilling to its participants. Bystanders? Fuck 'em. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2014 #14
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jun 2014 #16
And all thread headers of this ongoing series should start with.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jun 2014 #17
We have determined that Itchy & Scratchy does not meet DU community standards. name not needed Jun 2014 #18
Who doesn't appreciate a nice outreach program? opiate69 Jun 2014 #20
Acceptable to men? GOLGO 13 Jun 2014 #19
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