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6. Inkfreak, as the parent of two adult daughters about your age,

Thu Jan 30, 2014, 11:28 PM

Jan 2014

I feel a lot of anger toward your father for waiting so long and NOW wanting to establish contact. What exactly is the basis or the meaning of this contact? What is the meaning of being a parent if you have had nothing to do with "your" child for his entire life?

Of course you may at some time decide that you want to be in touch with him, and it could even turn out to be very interesting and rewarding. But man it is entirely your decision and this person has no claim on you. I'm not telling you anything you don't already know, but a lot of people have a sort of religion around "family," and you might get some pressure from people telling you blood is thicker than water. Sounds like you're well on your way, and happy birthday!

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35 Years Later My Father Reaches Out. [View all] Inkfreak Jan 2014 OP

Probably the best thing you could have done. Aristus Jan 2014 #1

My curiosity would get the better of me. ConcernedCanuk Jan 2014 #2

The curiosity factor is very high. Inkfreak Jan 2014 #3

Even if you forgive it doesn't mean you have to reestablish the relationship Major Nikon Feb 2014 #8

Did he send a message, or just the friend request? mokawanis Jan 2014 #4

Of course it's all your call and given the circumstances you're justified in handling it however. Warren DeMontague Jan 2014 #5

Inkfreak, as the parent of two adult daughters about your age, enough Jan 2014 #6

Inkfreak, I think you made the right decision. Squinch Jan 2014 #7

It's your decision. I would have made the other one. n/t lumberjack_jeff Feb 2014 #9

Sometimes wish I could get RID of my Dad. sibelian Mar 2014 #10