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LadyHawkAZ

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28. There can't be a clear-cut definition in these circumstances
Sun Dec 15, 2013, 06:30 PM
Dec 2013

because that's only possible when personal agency can be reasonably assumed as a constant, and different levels of intoxication create a variable. There has to be some degree of responsibility for observation and rational judgement placed on the people involved, because it isn't possible to place a lawyer in every bar to make all the individual judgement calls.

Personally, my take is that if they're too drunk to be served, they're probably too drunk to consent. Observing that the person you're talking to is slurring their speech and stumbling when they walk (the cutoff point for service) isn't difficult. Visible, obvious signs of intoxication are a red flag that you've reached the point beyond which it is dangerous to proceed. Of course there's going to be variables here, too- a couple that know and trust each other, for example, are going to be able to go out, get plowed and still go home and jump each other with no issues tomorrow morning (other than a hangover), where two strangers at the same level of intoxication probably ought not to try it. But it's a decent rule of thumb and would likely save a lot of problems if followed.

People who are too drunk to move or speak, or completely unconscious, I think we can all agree are beyond capacity for consent.

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Is it rape if the guy is drunk? Major Nikon Dec 2013 #1
Do you think there is a problem with rape in our society? Warren Stupidity Dec 2013 #2
Yes, I do. nt Bonobo Dec 2013 #5
Do you think being drunk meets the legal standard of inability to consent? Major Nikon Dec 2013 #10
In some circumstances it is highly problematic. Warren Stupidity Dec 2013 #11
What about in other circumstances Major Nikon Dec 2013 #12
Do you agree that there is a state of intoxication where consent is not possible? Warren Stupidity Dec 2013 #14
I asked you first Major Nikon Dec 2013 #16
How about when both people are equally drunk and both say yes? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #26
I thought I said yes to it. RiffRandell Dec 2013 #29
+1 nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #38
I'll answer. RiffRandell Dec 2013 #23
I'd say no Major Nikon Dec 2013 #25
That's clearly and unambiguously correct. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #33
+1 nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #37
Probably be a good idea to get consent prior to intoxication. malthaussen Dec 2013 #3
The linked post says that's still rape Doctor_J Dec 2013 #6
I'd object to that at least from a legal standpoint Major Nikon Dec 2013 #13
The first sentence in that post is quite definitive Doctor_J Dec 2013 #4
Being drunk does not meet the legal standard in any state Major Nikon Dec 2013 #7
Forgetting even the legal definition... Bonobo Dec 2013 #8
Certainly if it reaches the point of mental or physical incapacity Major Nikon Dec 2013 #9
So just short of passed out, anything goes? Warren Stupidity Dec 2013 #15
That wasn't what was asked Major Nikon Dec 2013 #17
huh? I'm asking where the limit is. Warren Stupidity Dec 2013 #18
Then your answer is "no" Major Nikon Dec 2013 #19
I have no idea what "no" means to an "or" question. Warren Stupidity Dec 2013 #21
I was answering post #15 Major Nikon Dec 2013 #31
Exactly. RiffRandell Dec 2013 #24
It's well known that even a little alcohol... TreasonousBastard Dec 2013 #20
Throw other drugs into the mix and the issue becomes even more complicated Major Nikon Dec 2013 #22
There can't be a clear-cut definition in these circumstances LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #28
Here's a list of the state laws Major Nikon Dec 2013 #30
State-level laws are made to Calvinball rules, yes LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #32
College campuses are where the worst of it is for women Major Nikon Dec 2013 #34
If they can get away with it once, LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #35
Good post. There is some ambiguity there, but arguably there shouldn't be - when in doubt, don't. nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #39
Don't expect to get any straight answers, that's for sure ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #27
well, that post is referring to someone so drunk they don't know what they did or didn't consent to fishwax Dec 2013 #36
I'm not so sure Major Nikon Dec 2013 #41
I was only referring to the post in question and general principle, not fishwax Dec 2013 #42
I guess it depends, in part, on what you mean by "drunk," but generally I would say yes. nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #40
Of course. nt Demo_Chris Dec 2013 #43
In my drinking days ... I did get drunk and have sex. In_The_Wind Dec 2013 #44
People get nervous and do that to loosen up a bit sometimes. Bonobo Dec 2013 #45
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