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I would like to say "narrow sex drive," but that sounds like a tautology. In fact, it isn't. It also sounds like it's similar to the notion of narrow-mindedness. It isn't.

Think of a sex drive as being like a faucet of variable width. It can have a narrow hard flow, it can have a broader weak flow, a narrow weak flow or even a broad hard flow.

The width represents the number of different sexual practices a person is capable of feeling even a small amount of pleasure from, and therefore can understand other people who also have that pleasure.

A person who doesn't respond at all to voyeurism is not going to understand porn. Also, voyeurs are going to seem weird to them. Understanding arousal from such a thing is, for them, like a colorblind person understanding red. They are going to be suspicious about people who do respond to voyeurism.

I'm also not talking about someone who is apathetic about sex. Sex is powerful in its psychological effects. Given the weirdness and creepiness that they're already going to feel, there are secondary emotions about sex that are usually superseded by pleasure. If they can't feel pleasure toward a sex act, what's bound to be dominant are things like nausea, jealousy, disgust.

This is not similar to narrow-mindedness either, in that responses to different sexual stimuli (or even sexually related stimuli) is unconscious. It's not anything a person can willfully alter. Though it's not necessarily fixed.

So, I don't think the sex industry is ever going to be in a fully accepted and legal. I don't think we're going to change any minds about it, and I think any intellectual justification for objections, like patriarchal theory or objectification, are actually rationalizations for very primal emotions.

I can add that this can also applies the other way. People with more "understanding" due to a broader sex drive are as motivated by their unconscious. They can't understand where we see red, and we can't understand where they see gray.