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BigmanPigman

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54. Loosing my 17 year old baby a year after my Dad

Mon Jun 29, 2026, 08:58 PM

16 hrs ago

Last edited Tue Jun 30, 2026, 09:39 AM - Edit history (1)

suddenly died has had me grieving for 6 years. The pain never goes away. Do not force it and do NOT listen to those who tell you that "you should do so and so to get over it" in a time frame. They are not supporting you...ignore them! Everyone grieves in their own way and time, no 2 are alike.

Both of my dogs visited me after they died and my dad did twice. One still visits me and I always feel glad afterwards. Visits from pets happen a lot more often than people realize. Too many are afraid to admit it since they may be called "crazy". I've found this out over the past few years of research and personal accounts. I could DU Mail you info if you'd like.

I am with you with love and empathy. I KNOW what hell is and it's loosing our 4 legged babies.

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I don't know what to do. [View all] LuckyCharms 19 hrs ago OP

So sorry... regnaD kciN 19 hrs ago #1

You are not alone. We have all had devastating hurts and we can empathize with you. alwaysinasnit 18 hrs ago #2

This message was self-deleted by its author coprolite 14 hrs ago #68

I'm Very Sorry About This, LuckyCharms. That is a Lot to Go Through, Male, Female, Adult, or Child. The Roux Comes First 18 hrs ago #3

Dearest Lucky Niagara 18 hrs ago #4

Grief will always come out Easterncedar 18 hrs ago #5

I'm so sorry for your pain, Lucky Charms. But I am so glad that you've been part of my life erronis 18 hrs ago #6

The best thing about life is that it's short. Haggard Celine 18 hrs ago #7

Our pets are family surfered 18 hrs ago #8

All i have to offer you is a cyber 🫂 mwmisses4289 18 hrs ago #9

I hpoe you can keep him as pain free as mtairyguy 18 hrs ago #10

Gladly LuckyCharms, JMCKUSICK 18 hrs ago #11

In the words of Hunter S. Thompson... SergeStorms 18 hrs ago #12

I don't know any details on you, your dog, and your dog's health. RockCreek 18 hrs ago #13

We love you so much, LC. I wish I could do something to ease your pain. littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #14

We can hear your pain thru your words and as the others have said, we send our deepest sadness for you Deuxcents 18 hrs ago #15

Trauma Is Cumulative FrankTC 18 hrs ago #16

Grief is debilitating but don't try to man up Keepthesoulalive 18 hrs ago #17

I hear you. Silver Gaia 18 hrs ago #18

Lucky, you're a god man..I've seen it many times in your posts.. mountain grammy 18 hrs ago #19

I'm sorry to hear your sad news Marthe48 18 hrs ago #20

with the elder gen gone in my family , my middle sis and i feel empty AllaN01Bear 18 hrs ago #21

I am sorry you are experiencing this pain. I send love to you and your, good boy. ShazamIam 18 hrs ago #22

Prayers said for your good boy. hamsterjill 18 hrs ago #23

My Dad died in 2014. Eko 18 hrs ago #24

Your good boy is part of you, maybe even a big part of you FakeNoose 17 hrs ago #25

You go ahead and 'dump' away. OldBaldy1701E 17 hrs ago #26

In the same plane of existence... MiHale 17 hrs ago #27

Lucky, I am in your corner, all of us are. Prairie_Seagull 17 hrs ago #28

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's always hard to lose a loved one, furry or not. chowder66 17 hrs ago #29

I HATE that our furbabies have such a short lifespan... buzzycrumbhunger 17 hrs ago #30

This part of part of our life sucks, LC. OAITW r.2.0 17 hrs ago #31

Oh sweet Lucky Unwind Your Mind 17 hrs ago #32

🥰 ♥️ 🥰 ♥️ 🥰 ♥️ a kennedy 17 hrs ago #33

Hugs to you. I hope sharing your pain and sorrow helps you. We all will help by listening and hugs. Srkdqltr 17 hrs ago #34

First, I prayed for you and your 'good boy'. Joinfortmill 17 hrs ago #35

I think you have this right. LuckyCharms 15 hrs ago #60

I understand. Very similar experiences and emotions. Very painful. Evolve Dammit 17 hrs ago #36

emotions need to be felt Kali 17 hrs ago #37

Holding you in my heart. You are NOT alone, many of us do understand. n/t TygrBright 17 hrs ago #38

I'm with you... S/V Loner 17 hrs ago #39

I'm so sorry. Trauma is hard to deal with Phoenix61 17 hrs ago #40

Please Google "can a dog's hind legs weaken from B 12 deficiency?" xuplate 16 hrs ago #41

You are not weak. It takes strength to let yourself feel and care for others the way you do. MLAA 16 hrs ago #42

Previous profession... SuzyandPuffpuff 16 hrs ago #43

Hang in there LC. NoMoreRepugs 16 hrs ago #44

You're not weak, Lucky. You're strong, and caring, and because you care, saying goodbye to loved highplainsdem 16 hrs ago #45

I have lent an ear...listened. sprinkleeninow 16 hrs ago #46

Hopefully by purging and expressing, you're healing yourself. SleeplessinSoCal 16 hrs ago #47

I feel all your pain and pray that The Universe gives you the strength to weather LoisB 16 hrs ago #48

Simple reply fxp1956 16 hrs ago #49

We have an obligation to the companion animals we have invited to share our lives. pat_k 16 hrs ago #50

Since the pandemic... LuckyCharms 16 hrs ago #51

My partner and I spent a long night "camped" on our living room floor with our K.D. on her last night. pat_k 15 hrs ago #61

My wife is sleeping on the couch tonight... LuckyCharms 15 hrs ago #65

May you all find connection and some peace tonight. pat_k 14 hrs ago #70

We lost 2 senior labs within days of each other a couple of years ago - TBF 16 hrs ago #52

My wonderful Lucky UpInArms 16 hrs ago #53

Sometimes... LuckyCharms 15 hrs ago #58

Loosing my 17 year old baby a year after my Dad BigmanPigman 16 hrs ago #54

I would like that information , Bigman... Trueblue Texan 12 hrs ago #77

Yes, I'll do that. BigmanPigman 3 hrs ago #90

I hear ya.. Permanut 16 hrs ago #55

34 years for me... LuckyCharms 15 hrs ago #66

I'm so glad EuterpeThelo 7 hrs ago #85

I'm so sorry. I have no suggestions, just a sincere wish you find some relief Scrivener7 15 hrs ago #56

I'm so sorry for your pain annielion 15 hrs ago #57

I hear and see you Lifeafter70 15 hrs ago #59

Sending you my Faux pas 15 hrs ago #62

I'm so sorry. Knowing that life is HARD when people actually care about people and animals and life on earth doesn't Exp 15 hrs ago #63

I'm both sorry and I completely understand cate94 15 hrs ago #64

Keep on doing your best, amigo JoseBalow 15 hrs ago #67

Sorry to hear you are loosing another member of your family coprolite 14 hrs ago #69

My dear sweet LuckyCharms , I will continue to keep you in my rosary prayers. . Love, debm55 debm55 14 hrs ago #71

Life is by no means fair or easy. Take it easy on yourself because you have given it your all . waterwatcher123 14 hrs ago #72

You don't have to know what to do. Tanuki 14 hrs ago #73

Big hugs, and a shoulder to cry on for you, Lucky Bayard 13 hrs ago #74

Listen, LuckyCharms. yardwork 13 hrs ago #75

I am saying a prayer for you... Trueblue Texan 13 hrs ago #76

My heart goes out to you orangecrush 12 hrs ago #78

I don't really know you aside from your posts but.. BlueSpot 12 hrs ago #79

I feel the pain and love in your post slightlv 12 hrs ago #80

I'm ao sorry, Lucky Charms. HeartsCanHope 12 hrs ago #81

Just love him. Figarosmom 10 hrs ago #82

🙏 demosincebirth 10 hrs ago #83

I'd suggest Walkin' Wheels pet wheelchairs or something similar for him but it sounds like blue_jay 9 hrs ago #84

Trauma and reliving trauma Laurelin 4 hrs ago #86

Prayers going out NewLarry 4 hrs ago #87

Your blubbering is taking it like a good man TexLaProgressive 3 hrs ago #88

Dear, dear LuckyCharms Erda 3 hrs ago #89

God bless you and your beloved pup. The Human Condition is a..... ColoringFool 1 hr ago #91

(((hugs))) samnsara 1 hr ago #92

Love you, Lucky. Harker 1 hr ago #93

Love you too, Harker. LuckyCharms 1 hr ago #94

I'm sorry, but I can only manage thoughts of your Good Boy in small bursts. BobTheSubgenius 8 min ago #95