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18. I hear you.

Mon Jun 29, 2026, 06:46 PM

17 hrs ago

I am the only living member of my family left. My entire blood relation family is gone now, except for my daughter. And I lost my best friend, a 14 (almost 15) year old Border Collie, last December for very similar reasons. I felt euthanasia guilt for months because part of me felt I did not have the right to make that decision for her. It has been rough. My grief for her has been the deepest, and is still with me, but better now. So, you have my sympathies from a knowing place. If you need to talk to someone who has had similar experiences, I'm here for you. Just send me a message. Nonetheless, you have my understanding and support. Be well.

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I don't know what to do. [View all] LuckyCharms 17 hrs ago OP

So sorry... regnaD kciN 17 hrs ago #1

You are not alone. We have all had devastating hurts and we can empathize with you. alwaysinasnit 17 hrs ago #2

This message was self-deleted by its author coprolite 13 hrs ago #68

I'm Very Sorry About This, LuckyCharms. That is a Lot to Go Through, Male, Female, Adult, or Child. The Roux Comes First 17 hrs ago #3

Dearest Lucky Niagara 17 hrs ago #4

Grief will always come out Easterncedar 17 hrs ago #5

I'm so sorry for your pain, Lucky Charms. But I am so glad that you've been part of my life erronis 17 hrs ago #6

The best thing about life is that it's short. Haggard Celine 17 hrs ago #7

Our pets are family surfered 17 hrs ago #8

All i have to offer you is a cyber 🫂 mwmisses4289 17 hrs ago #9

I hpoe you can keep him as pain free as mtairyguy 17 hrs ago #10

Gladly LuckyCharms, JMCKUSICK 17 hrs ago #11

In the words of Hunter S. Thompson... SergeStorms 17 hrs ago #12

I don't know any details on you, your dog, and your dog's health. RockCreek 17 hrs ago #13

We love you so much, LC. I wish I could do something to ease your pain. littlemissmartypants 17 hrs ago #14

We can hear your pain thru your words and as the others have said, we send our deepest sadness for you Deuxcents 17 hrs ago #15

Trauma Is Cumulative FrankTC 17 hrs ago #16

Grief is debilitating but don't try to man up Keepthesoulalive 17 hrs ago #17

I hear you. Silver Gaia 17 hrs ago #18

Lucky, you're a god man..I've seen it many times in your posts.. mountain grammy 17 hrs ago #19

I'm sorry to hear your sad news Marthe48 17 hrs ago #20

with the elder gen gone in my family , my middle sis and i feel empty AllaN01Bear 17 hrs ago #21

I am sorry you are experiencing this pain. I send love to you and your, good boy. ShazamIam 16 hrs ago #22

Prayers said for your good boy. hamsterjill 16 hrs ago #23

My Dad died in 2014. Eko 16 hrs ago #24

Your good boy is part of you, maybe even a big part of you FakeNoose 16 hrs ago #25

You go ahead and 'dump' away. OldBaldy1701E 16 hrs ago #26

In the same plane of existence... MiHale 16 hrs ago #27

Lucky, I am in your corner, all of us are. Prairie_Seagull 16 hrs ago #28

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's always hard to lose a loved one, furry or not. chowder66 16 hrs ago #29

I HATE that our furbabies have such a short lifespan... buzzycrumbhunger 16 hrs ago #30

This part of part of our life sucks, LC. OAITW r.2.0 16 hrs ago #31

Oh sweet Lucky Unwind Your Mind 16 hrs ago #32

🥰 ♥️ 🥰 ♥️ 🥰 ♥️ a kennedy 16 hrs ago #33

Hugs to you. I hope sharing your pain and sorrow helps you. We all will help by listening and hugs. Srkdqltr 16 hrs ago #34

First, I prayed for you and your 'good boy'. Joinfortmill 16 hrs ago #35

I think you have this right. LuckyCharms 14 hrs ago #60

I understand. Very similar experiences and emotions. Very painful. Evolve Dammit 16 hrs ago #36

emotions need to be felt Kali 16 hrs ago #37

Holding you in my heart. You are NOT alone, many of us do understand. n/t TygrBright 16 hrs ago #38

I'm with you... S/V Loner 15 hrs ago #39

I'm so sorry. Trauma is hard to deal with Phoenix61 15 hrs ago #40

Please Google "can a dog's hind legs weaken from B 12 deficiency?" xuplate 15 hrs ago #41

You are not weak. It takes strength to let yourself feel and care for others the way you do. MLAA 15 hrs ago #42

Previous profession... SuzyandPuffpuff 15 hrs ago #43

Hang in there LC. NoMoreRepugs 15 hrs ago #44

You're not weak, Lucky. You're strong, and caring, and because you care, saying goodbye to loved highplainsdem 15 hrs ago #45

I have lent an ear...listened. sprinkleeninow 15 hrs ago #46

Hopefully by purging and expressing, you're healing yourself. SleeplessinSoCal 15 hrs ago #47

I feel all your pain and pray that The Universe gives you the strength to weather LoisB 15 hrs ago #48

Simple reply fxp1956 15 hrs ago #49

We have an obligation to the companion animals we have invited to share our lives. pat_k 15 hrs ago #50

Since the pandemic... LuckyCharms 15 hrs ago #51

My partner and I spent a long night "camped" on our living room floor with our K.D. on her last night. pat_k 14 hrs ago #61

My wife is sleeping on the couch tonight... LuckyCharms 14 hrs ago #65

May you all find connection and some peace tonight. pat_k 13 hrs ago #70

We lost 2 senior labs within days of each other a couple of years ago - TBF 14 hrs ago #52

My wonderful Lucky UpInArms 14 hrs ago #53

Sometimes... LuckyCharms 14 hrs ago #58

Loosing my 17 year old baby a year after my Dad BigmanPigman 14 hrs ago #54

I would like that information , Bigman... Trueblue Texan 11 hrs ago #77

Yes, I'll do that. BigmanPigman 2 hrs ago #90

I hear ya.. Permanut 14 hrs ago #55

34 years for me... LuckyCharms 14 hrs ago #66

I'm so glad EuterpeThelo 6 hrs ago #85

I'm so sorry. I have no suggestions, just a sincere wish you find some relief Scrivener7 14 hrs ago #56

I'm so sorry for your pain annielion 14 hrs ago #57

I hear and see you Lifeafter70 14 hrs ago #59

Sending you my Faux pas 14 hrs ago #62

I'm so sorry. Knowing that life is HARD when people actually care about people and animals and life on earth doesn't Exp 14 hrs ago #63

I'm both sorry and I completely understand cate94 14 hrs ago #64

Keep on doing your best, amigo JoseBalow 14 hrs ago #67

Sorry to hear you are loosing another member of your family coprolite 13 hrs ago #69

My dear sweet LuckyCharms , I will continue to keep you in my rosary prayers. . Love, debm55 debm55 13 hrs ago #71

Life is by no means fair or easy. Take it easy on yourself because you have given it your all . waterwatcher123 13 hrs ago #72

You don't have to know what to do. Tanuki 12 hrs ago #73

Big hugs, and a shoulder to cry on for you, Lucky Bayard 12 hrs ago #74

Listen, LuckyCharms. yardwork 12 hrs ago #75

I am saying a prayer for you... Trueblue Texan 11 hrs ago #76

My heart goes out to you orangecrush 11 hrs ago #78

I don't really know you aside from your posts but.. BlueSpot 11 hrs ago #79

I feel the pain and love in your post slightlv 11 hrs ago #80

I'm ao sorry, Lucky Charms. HeartsCanHope 10 hrs ago #81

Just love him. Figarosmom 9 hrs ago #82

🙏 demosincebirth 9 hrs ago #83

I'd suggest Walkin' Wheels pet wheelchairs or something similar for him but it sounds like blue_jay 8 hrs ago #84

Trauma and reliving trauma Laurelin 3 hrs ago #86

Prayers going out NewLarry 3 hrs ago #87

Your blubbering is taking it like a good man TexLaProgressive 2 hrs ago #88

Dear, dear LuckyCharms Erda 2 hrs ago #89

God bless you and your beloved pup. The Human Condition is a..... ColoringFool 40 min ago #91

(((hugs))) samnsara 33 min ago #92

Love you, Lucky. Harker 18 min ago #93

Love you too, Harker. LuckyCharms 15 min ago #94