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87. I never went to any high school events and otherwise did my best to be invisible.

Sun Feb 1, 2026, 12:18 AM

Feb 1

Quitting high school at sixteen for college was one of the better decisions I've made in my life. I'm not sure I would have survived any more high school. A few kids in our high school didn't. Prom wasn't even on my radar.

Curiously I was allowed to attend a graduation even though I hadn't satisfied all the requirements to graduate, mostly because my grandmother had cancer and wanted to see at least one of her grandchildren graduate. The school administration may have signed off on that because I was already enrolled in college. It felt very odd graduating ahead of my own classmates.

I got a lot of pressure from some adults to finish high school, mostly people who thought it would be essential to my social development or something. I had no social development then, I was weird autistic spectrum kid and would remain weird for a few more years.

I sometimes have dreams that some powerful authority is forcing me to complete high school and they are not listening to arguments that I'm a college graduate who has taught high school himself, so I guess the experience was somewhat traumatic for me. They've usually got me sitting in some pre-algebra class for juniors and seniors in spite of the fact I took algebra in the eighth grade.

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Did you ever go to a Prom in High School. I didn't. Wasn't asked. How about you? I finally got to go to two when I [View all] debm55 Jan 31 OP

When to both my junior and senior proms with two different guys. sinkingfeeling Jan 31 #1

Thank you for sharing, sinkingfeeling. debm55 Jan 31 #2

Yes. First year as a waiter. Then the Junior and Senior Proms. OLDMDDEM Jan 31 #3

Thank you very much for sharing with us, OLDMDDEM debm55 Jan 31 #4

Nope... regnaD kciN Jan 31 #5

Thank you. very much, regnaD kciN. for sharing with us. debm55 Jan 31 #16

Yes, I went with my high school girlfriend CanonRay Jan 31 #6

Thank you very much, CanonRay for sharing. debm55 Jan 31 #17

Nope Wicked Blue Jan 31 #7

Thank you for sharing my friend. Wicked Blue. debm55 Jan 31 #18

Nope. Wasn't asked. As I recall I didn't care because it was more fun going out partying with my friends. Vinca Jan 31 #8

HAHAHHAHHAAHAHA. Thank you Vinca. There were so many groups at my high school---jocks, geeks, nerds, freaks. I was a debm55 Jan 31 #20

Nope. I am a survivor of evangelical parents..no dancing, no "jungle" music. Just waiting for the rapture Deuxcents Jan 31 #9

OH MY, What a bummer. We should both wite a book. debm55 Jan 31 #21

Yeah! My birth father was a fun loving man, played his guitar and loved life..nothing like the man my mother Deuxcents Jan 31 #23

Thank you , dear Deuxcents. debm55 Jan 31 #40

I know, right? wendyb-NC Feb 1 #131

Thank you wendyb-NC. debm55 Feb 1 #132

Went to junior prom in PA then moved to CA where I was too poor to afford a LoisB Jan 31 #10

Thank you for sharing, LoisB. I felt sad at the time. Very sad. My Senior Center is planning a Prom/Valentines Dance. debm55 Jan 31 #41

I hope you have a fabulous time. LoisB Feb 1 #88

Thank you, LoisB. debm55 Feb 1 #123

Didn't go to... 2naSalit Jan 31 #11

Thank you, my friend, for sharing with us. debm55 Jan 31 #42

Didn't miss anything since... 2naSalit Jan 31 #48

Thank you, 2naSalit. debm55 Jan 31 #70

Didn't want to be bothered with it. lpbk2713 Jan 31 #12

Thank you , Ipbk2713, No Prom or reunion. I had my group of friends I talk to occasionally. Don't need to fake it and debm55 Jan 31 #43

Nope....no regrets. anciano Jan 31 #13

Thank you, anciano for sharing with us. I have to admit at the time, taking those pictures for my cousin , that my debm55 Jan 31 #44

Went with a skeevy guy oberle Jan 31 #14

This message was self-deleted by its author Dear_Prudence Jan 31 #38

Similar experience. Dear_Prudence Jan 31 #39

That is gross. debm55 Jan 31 #45

ours was cancelled AllaN01Bear Jan 31 #15

May I ask why? debm55 Jan 31 #46

somebody did somethingg bad. AllaN01Bear Jan 31 #76

Thank you Bear. debm55 Jan 31 #78

No. surrealAmerican Jan 31 #19

Thank you surrealAmerican. I was on the Honor Roll, Student Council, Diving and Basketball teams. but I had always debm55 Jan 31 #47

I went. Didn't enjoy it. Wore a hideous tuxedo. I still cringe whenever I think about it. Borogove Jan 31 #22

Thank you Borogove, my friend. Didn't they take pictures of the happy couple? debm55 Jan 31 #49

I went to two senior proms, Deb. LuckyCharms Jan 31 #24

Oh Lucky, that is funny, Thank you for making me smile. debm55 Jan 31 #50

I had a rather embarrassing time when it came to high school dances. Aristus Jan 31 #25

High school is difficult even for some of the so-called popular kids biophile Jan 31 #32

Hugs to you, Aristus. Great post. PS I was going to put "Did you go to the Prom?" on your ask me anything thread. debm55 Jan 31 #72

Asked and answered! Aristus Jan 31 #79

Thank you very much. Aristus debm55 Feb 1 #103

I did not. I was a nerd and a social leper who never got asked to anything. Ocelot II Jan 31 #26

Thank you Ocelot II, I agree with you. I liked my subjects and activities at HS and the real but few friends. I had, The debm55 Jan 31 #77

Not me.I loathed everything about high school and every minute I spent there. Ocelot II Jan 31 #80

Sorry, my dear Ocelot II debm55 Feb 1 #104

Went to my Junior prom. Missed my Senior prom livetohike Jan 31 #27

That's a bummer about the job. Thank you for sharing with us, livetohike. debm55 Feb 1 #102

I did...with my "steady girlfriend" ...in hindsight that was so dumb (steady girl friend). walkingman Jan 31 #28

Thank you very much, walkingman. I remember girls wearing their steady boyfriends big HS rings. I though it was odd. debm55 Feb 1 #107

This message was self-deleted by its author wcmagumba Jan 31 #29

HAHAHHAHAAHHAH. Thank you wcmagumba for sharing with us. debm55 Feb 1 #108

I Did ProfessorGAC Jan 31 #30

Thank you very much for sharing with us. ProfessorGAC. Sounds like you all had a great time. debm55 Feb 1 #109

It Didn't Suck ProfessorGAC Feb 1 #119

Thank you ProfessorGAC for your words of wisdom. debm55 Feb 1 #121

You bet. Went to his Junior prom and my Junior prom and his Senior prom and my Senior prom. hedda_foil Jan 31 #31

Thank you very much, hedda_foil for sharing with us. debm55 Feb 1 #110

Senior Prom Bayard Jan 31 #33

Great post, Bayard. I was the same way. Did a lot of school activities. But was not so good making boyfriends. I had debm55 Feb 1 #112

I took my girlfriend to my senior prom. Americanme Jan 31 #34

Thank you very much, for sharing with us, Americanme. It sounds like you had a great time. debm55 Feb 1 #113

Yes, I went. I asked a guy friend in my art class TexasBushwhacker Jan 31 #35

Thank you TexasBushwhacker for sharing . That does sound like fun. At my school , the Prom was mostly for couples going debm55 Feb 1 #114

No one asked me for either one The Blue Flower Jan 31 #36

If you are , then I am too. Figure it this way, The Blue Flower, someone at our missed out on some interesting Prom debm55 Feb 1 #115

Nope sakabatou Jan 31 #37

Thank you very much for sharing with us, sakabatou. I understand. I take meds for it now. debm55 Jan 31 #69

I've tried taking meds sakabatou Jan 31 #75

Thank you sakabatou. debm55 Feb 1 #116

Not mine but lonely bird Jan 31 #51

Thank you very much, lonely bird for sharing with us. I felt the same. I tried but it seemed I had an "L" on my head. debm55 Jan 31 #67

Same here lonely bird Feb 1 #90

Thank you very much for sharing with us. lonely bird. debm55 Feb 1 #124

I did senior year sdfernando Jan 31 #52

Was that the after-Prom? Thank you very much for sharing with us. debm55 Jan 31 #56

It was the Prom sdfernando Jan 31 #66

Thank you very much, sdfernando. That sounds wonderful. debm55 Jan 31 #83

Went to my senior prom. Spent more of it Demobrat Jan 31 #53

Oh you. HAHAHAHA, Thank you very much for sharing, Demobrat. debm55 Jan 31 #54

No. gay texan Jan 31 #55

Thank you gay texan. I guess I felt bad because of my cousin. Volunteering me to take pictures of her and her date. I debm55 Jan 31 #59

Good for you , gay texan. debm55 Jan 31 #64

My boyfriend (now hubby) and I went to the Sr Ball & Banquet and the Prom. woodsprite Jan 31 #57

Thank you very much, woodsprite. What a great post. I feel the same about the friends I had too. I was sorry I paid for debm55 Jan 31 #63

I went to an all girls high school kimbutgar Jan 31 #58

Thank you very much, kimbutgar. I bet you did look great. Great post. debm55 Jan 31 #61

Went steady through high school.. Permanut Jan 31 #60

Oh Permanut. I am very sorry, At the time it must have hurt like heck. But it opened you up to find a real and lasting debm55 Jan 31 #62

My very first date, at age 15 when I was a freshman, was an upper classman's Jr Prom. 3catwoman3 Jan 31 #65

Hahahahahahaha. That's funny 3catwoman3. debm55 Jan 31 #68

I went to my senior prom with my high school sweetheart. Dulcinea Jan 31 #71

HAAHAHAHAHHAHAHAH. That is funny. Thank you for sharing with us. Dulcinea. debm55 Feb 1 #118

Yes, Jr. and Sr. Proms with my boyfriend now husband. Tikki Jan 31 #73

Thank you very much, Tikki for sharing you with us. debm55 Feb 1 #100

Never went to one fargone Jan 31 #74

That is wonderful, fargone . Thank you for your romantic post. I love it. debm55 Feb 1 #101

Never went to any. thucythucy Jan 31 #81

I sorry that happened to you. You know School Districts are obligated to send you a tutor.during that home time. debm55 Jan 31 #82

Yup, and the district in fact thucythucy Feb 2 #135

Thank you , thucythucy for sharing with us. I enjoyed reading your post. debm55 Feb 2 #136

Went to mine IbogaProject Feb 1 #84

Thank you very much for sharing with us. IbogaProject. I had 700 in my Senior Class. so it was hard not to miss the debm55 Feb 1 #99

Nope. Mme. Defarge Feb 1 #85

Great, Mme. Defarge. That sounds so much better than the Prom. Good for you. debm55 Feb 1 #98

Never did LogDog75 Feb 1 #86

Thank you for sharing with us. LogDog75. I had wished I could peacefully stay home at the time. debm55 Feb 1 #97

I never went to any high school events and otherwise did my best to be invisible. hunter Feb 1 #87

Thank you hunter for your wonderful post. I too had enough credits to graduate in 11th grade. and go to college. School debm55 Feb 1 #96

No I had a baby in high school maptap22 Feb 1 #89

Thank you my dear, maptap22. debm55 Feb 1 #95

Nope. I was an outcast; nobody asked me Mad_Dem_X Feb 1 #91

That is beautiful . Thank you you for sharing with us. debm55 Feb 1 #94

No. I was too awkward to approach anyone of the opposite sex. retread Feb 1 #92

Thank you for sharing retread. debm55 Feb 1 #93

Went all out for senior prom Bluestocking Feb 1 #105

That sounds wonderful, Thank you very much for sharing with us, Bluestocking. debm55 Feb 1 #122

;-{) Don't remind me.... Goonch Feb 1 #106

How sweet. Thank you for sharing, Goonch. You look so young. debm55 Feb 1 #111

I went to two. malthaussen Feb 1 #117

Thank you very much for sharing with us, Mal. You are a great person stepping in for both Proms. debm55 Feb 1 #120

I didn't go wendyb-NC Feb 1 #125

Thank you very much for sharing with us. wendyb-NC. debm55 Feb 1 #128

I got the measles and missed it. pfitz59 Feb 1 #126

Thank you very much, pfitz59, I would just be lucky that you are alive. debm55 Feb 1 #129

No prom for me. pandr32 Feb 1 #127

HAHHAHHAHAHAH. Thank you pandr32 for sharing with us. debm55 Feb 1 #130

No, and I'm thankful I didn't. subterranean Feb 1 #133

I felt the same. My first date was at 18 and I would have had an imaginary date too. I see these stretch limos and debm55 Feb 1 #134

I went to both junior and senior prom. Same girl. flvegan Feb 2 #137

Thank you very much, fivegan, for sharing with us. debm55 Feb 2 #138

No but I was invited justaprogressive Feb 2 #139

To backward in the Social skills to do that , debm55 Feb 2 #140