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lostnfound

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10. One is under no obligation to be forgiving.

Reply to Danmel (Reply #8)

Sun Nov 30, 2025, 04:40 AM

Sunday

So choose what makes sense to you.
Who needs Christmas together anyway? If no one else (such as your son) ends up with new obligations to travel / divide up their time due to rifts in the family.

(I spent most of 20 Christmases during my 30s and 40s both sad and frustrated at being expected to become a ping pong ball. It led me to hate the holidays I previously loved. No chance to relax — nothing but rushed travel, catching illnesses in airports, disappointing one person or another. My kid has only one childhood memory of having everybody that he cared about together at Christmas.)

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I'd love your thoughts on a family matter [View all] Danmel Saturday OP

Only go if YOU would be comfy being there. flor-de-jasmim Saturday #1

My family is huge, been there snowybirdie Saturday #2

The DIL may not appreciate her father being ostracized. Irish_Dem Saturday #4

What does your son think? Irish_Dem Saturday #3

The mother of disappointment is expecting behaviors from people unable to perform them. ... marble falls Saturday #5

This message was self-deleted by its author debm55 Saturday #6

Social graces ain't what they used to be. Personally I'd be philosophical about it and patient with a clueless in-law lostnfound Saturday #7

I appreciate what you're saying Danmel Saturday #8

One is under no obligation to be forgiving. lostnfound Sunday #10

It's hard to say. If you've had a friendly relationship and seen each other frequently then I would have Fla Dem Saturday #9

Message auto-removed Name removed Sunday #11

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