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I’m sorry this happened to you and for the disappointment over his reaction (or lack of reaction/sympathy).
But out of love your own son, I suggest being zealously careful about expecting things from his wife or his in-laws. He and his wife are not in a position to change her father’s personality. Marriage is complicated. Please don’t add stress to your son’s marriage over something he can’t control. It will only hurt you or him or both.

You may have no understanding of this man’s actual life: what he is juggling, what failures or disasters he has under the surface, what his family situation is like.
*His brain might just be wired differently — somewhere on a socially-inept scale, better at business or whatever his field is, but really bad with people.
*He could be going through cancer, loss of his own parents, marital problems, depression or mental health problems — in ways that keep him distracted, busy, etc.
*He probably never learned to reach out or be social through cards and phone calls. LOTS of people didn’t.

Some people are chaotically busy and incapable of managing their daily requirements, thinking about an in-laws injury might not make it through to the front burner.