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Definitely be thankful for the good parts!

I have seen more of these relationship situations in my life than not, sadly. I agree that a lot of it has to do with parents and a system that promotes immunity for males and complete responsibility for everything placed on females. My parents, all four of them, and most of my siblings have had similar relationship experiences with and without children. Most of my relationships have been brief, ended as soon as the misogyny started showing up... I don't wait long to bail, less sense of 'possession' that way and easier to move on for everyone, usually.

There are those who are narcissists and they are a big social problem, as we can see with one in the WH who managed to find a large collection of other social miscreants to wrest power over the rest of us with impunity.

That's a big thing we need to fix as a people. I suggest empowering women to find and execute the solutions. Men have a pretty crappy track record for running things.

But I digress, my advice is to record and document all interactions, interview the grandson upon return from dad visits. Keeping a paper trail, so to speak, is crucial. Otherwise, carry on with life and, as your wise wife says, "one day at a time' is the best philosophy when answers seem elusive.