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9. Knowing those moments when the bald truth is really not appropriate,

Reply to debm55 (Original post)

Thu Nov 20, 2025, 06:25 PM

Nov 20

is an art.

Ex. Do these pants make my butt look big?

Being right is not always the correct response.

It's winning the battle or winning the war. Choose carefully.

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Should you always tell the truth, even if it makes things awkward? [View all] debm55 Nov 20 OP

Yes, always. Aviation Pro Nov 20 #1

Thank you very much, Aviation Pro, I agree with your statement. debm55 Nov 20 #2

I think honesty is usually the best path unless it can causes hurt that serves no purpose. walkingman Nov 20 #3

if you can't say something good don't say anything at all. rampartd Nov 20 #10

I always side with telling the truth Grim Chieftain Nov 20 #4

Well, don't lie. Full truth is not always necessary if bad feelings will likely result among family, etc. No Vested Interest Nov 20 #5

Being truthful is important.... anciano Nov 20 #6

Nobody likes being lied to. Dorothy V Nov 20 #7

Someone told me many years ago, and I carry it to this day JMCKUSICK Nov 20 #8

That is so true. zanana1 Nov 21 #13

Knowing those moments when the bald truth is really not appropriate, nocoincidences Nov 20 #9

I never lie about anything JoseBalow Nov 21 #11

I don't know any more! True Dough Nov 21 #12

The truth can be an insult. zanana1 Nov 21 #14

Yes. a white lie or not saying saying anything. But when does the "truth" step into gaslighting? debm55 Nov 21 #15

I support Kurt Vonnegut's concept of "foma" - harmless untruths. Aristus Nov 21 #16

But if it not true, is it not a lie? debm55 Nov 21 #17

Probably not, but I do anyway. malthaussen Nov 21 #18

Thank you very much malthaussen. Sometimes the truth will out. but sometimes it doesn't debm55 Nov 21 #20

my experience is that truth is always best mike_c Nov 21 #19