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mzmolly

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6. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Reply to Mossfern (Original post)

Mon Sep 15, 2025, 06:11 PM

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I had a similar situation recently with our beloved tabby. She passed away with what was thought a brain tumor. Her cat brother is mourning by being very clingy and her dog sister, looked for her and sniffs the spot where she rested before going to the ER.

I've been saying the name of our cat while talking to our pets. Letting them know that we understand they also miss her. The seem to pick up a bit and while it may sound crazy, they appear to understand that we know why their grieving.

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I'm coming here for advice/support, don't know where to turn [View all] Mossfern Monday OP

I'm very sorry for your loss. LuckyCharms Monday #1

Thank you Mossfern Monday #7

So sorry montanacowboy Monday #2

So very sorry for your loss. quaint Monday #3

Give Broccoli (and yourself) time. But make sure he is drinking water and eating at least a little Attilatheblond Monday #4

Thank you for giving me such understanding advice. Mossfern Monday #9

Your inner wisdom is serving you and the cat kids well Attilatheblond Monday #19

Cats usually homegirl Monday #22

Another kitty? That's what I'd do and let them eventually bond.. chouchou Monday #5

I'm so sorry for your loss. mzmolly Monday #6

Broccoli and I have been having conversations about it. Mossfern Monday #11

Has he viewed the body ? That seems to help them understand that their friend is "gone", in a different way ... eppur_se_muova Monday #8

He was present before we went to the vet Mossfern Monday #10

Even humans do not always accept a death until they attend the funeral. Animals may show the same behavior. eppur_se_muova Monday #12

Gus was euthanized at the vet Mossfern Monday #13

Seems to be some mistunderstanding -- I'm just suggesting he be allowed to view the body. eppur_se_muova Monday #14

My kitty Samson suffered mightily when his littermate BMO died. Nanuke Monday #15

I'm so sorry about Gus. Solly Mack Monday #16

Animals grieve Keepthesoulalive Monday #17

You can find calming cat music on You Tube Marthe48 Monday #18

You can't rush grief or mitigate it. LuvLoogie Monday #20

I'm sorry cate94 Monday #21

Deeply sorry for your loss. AltairIV Monday #23

Know how you feel...just lost my kitty a couple of weeks ago. I'm the "cat lady" allegorical oracle Monday #24

My answer would be "time." My cats are still mourning the loss of my GS and it has been a year. nt in2herbs Monday #25

Just Let The Kitty Mourn ProfessorGAC Monday #26

I am so sorry for the loss of Gus. LoisB Monday #27

We had a Tom-like cat who fathered 3 kittens Jarqui Monday #28

So sorry for the loss you and your fur babies are going thru, Mossfern. pazzyanne Monday #29

I'm so sorry that you lost Gus Wicked Blue Monday #30

Do you have any video recordings of Gus? Or would that make things worse? xuplate Monday #31

My kids are compiling a photo album Mossfern Monday #33

I'm sorry for your loss, Mossfern. I don't have any advice for you. 70sEraVet Monday #32

Thank you for posting your sad story. I am so sorry for your tragic loss. Fla Dem 20 hrs ago #34

I never grieved so damn hard as I did when my beloved Marvy died. CTyankee 19 hrs ago #35

Gus 😿 Clouds Passing 13 hrs ago #36