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RamblingRose

(1,133 posts) Sat Aug 23, 2025, 01:35 PM Saturday

Our daughter is getting engaged & is looking for us to foot the bill. $$$$$$ [View all]

She's 28, lives in Baltimore, grew up here in the NE suburbs of Atlanta where we still live, along w/ the extended family. Her fiance is from Naples. They met at FSU in Tallahassee. His grandmother lives in Miami & can't travel so they want to have the wedding in Miami (forget the fact my mom is the same age - 93). It's also close to all his family.

She said they haven't done any research yet but want to invite 125 people, have a sit down dinner w/ a live band, & an after party. After having a stroke I told her we could pay about $20,000'ish.

My husband & I got married 33 years ago in our mid 20's & paid for it ourselves. When we got to the honeymoon we were like, "why the fuck did we go through all that!"

We told her that money would be a great down payment on a house.

Anyone pay for a wedding lately? The last 2 we've been to were barn weddings & they were lovely. I have no idea what weddings cost.

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Our daughter is getting engaged & is looking for us to foot the bill. $$$$$$ [View all] RamblingRose Saturday OP

Nope. My daughter paid for her own wedding. SheltieLover Saturday #1

Congratulations & Kudos to them! RamblingRose Saturday #2

Thx! 10 yrs ago. SheltieLover Saturday #5

You're right--better to use the money as a down payment Bayard Saturday #3

My wife and I got married on my parents' front lawn in July 24 years ago. True Dough Saturday #4

Mr. Diamond and I had exactly 15 immediate family wedding guests. Diamond_Dog Saturday #6

Tell them to keep a secret and elope... ZDU Saturday #7

Our daughters learned very early on that we would Ninga Saturday #8

We have 2 grown daughters and have poli-junkie Saturday #9

Having it in Miami will keep our family & friends away so that'll half the cost. RamblingRose Saturday #11

We paid for it ourselves Nictuku Saturday #10

Too funny.. cilla4progress Saturday #14

I Loved Gunne Sax dresses! I had one for prom & homecoming. RamblingRose Saturday #15

I used to go to the Gunne Sax factory in SF kimbutgar Saturday #19

Wow! Had no idea! justaprogressive Saturday #22

I've never understood why anyone would want to pay big bucks for their wedding. Half the time they Vinca Saturday #12

If you can & want to pay towards a wedding, make the couple sign an iron clad contract: NO DIVORCE or pay $ back Attilatheblond Saturday #13

My mom would say "The bigger they are the harder they fall." My neighbor was married at The Biltmore, divorced 5 years RamblingRose Saturday #16

Your mom sounds like a pretty down to earth observer of trends Attilatheblond Saturday #17

I think Rebl2 Sunday #32

A wedding in May Marthe48 Saturday #18

My mom is pretty upset about them catering to his grandmother since she's the same age. She had offered to help w/ some RamblingRose Saturday #24

Those getting married need to understand it's about the marriage Grim Chieftain Saturday #20

I told my daughters I'd pay for them to elope to Vegas. Dulcinea Saturday #21

A fun story about our wedding was the photographer we hired. He was a dentist & did weddings for extra income. RamblingRose Saturday #23

This message was self-deleted by its author Skittles Saturday #25

A lot now DetroitLegalBeagle Saturday #26

'Haven't done any research yet,' elleng Saturday #27

My niece got married last November... Mark.b2 Sunday #28

I'd be inclined to feign disinterest. Or poverty. Aussie105 Sunday #29

They've been dating for about 8 years & moved to Baltimore together in 2021. His one sister does not like her. She RamblingRose Sunday #30

My husband Rebl2 Sunday #31