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womanofthehills

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20. The thing is - you don't have to be reactive

Reply to zanana1 (Original post)

Sun Jun 1, 2025, 10:42 PM

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Rational Emotive Therapy - you can often choose to be angry or not - if someone provokes me - I don’t take the bait.

I refuse to argue - I will hang up the phone or leave the room before I argue. Some people love to argue - but because they do, it doesn’t mean I have to argue back.

When I was young I was really into Albert Ellis - the father of rational emotive therapy & his books (and lectures) really inspired me to be more zen in my life.

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