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cksmithy

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18. My fil stayed at a home that took care of elderly people as long as they were ambulatory,
Wed Apr 16, 2025, 03:51 PM
Apr 2025

in California, in a five bedroom home in the 1980's. Worked out really well. My mother, 2007 to 2016, stayed at an ambulatory facility, that accepted her, but she wasn't able to walk or take care of herself. My brothers took care of her arrangements, but didn't get her appropriate physical therapy, etc., she finally passed away, it was a very long slow death. The facility was like an apartment building with a common room that served three meals a day. All patients had their own rooms, bathrooms and could come and leave as they wished. Some patients/clients drove and would be back in time for dinner. It was a good facility, they just were not equipped to take of my mother and never should of accepted her, but money always wins.
Just make sure they can help you as your health/conditions change.

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How often they check on patients especially if people are moving around indoors and outdoors FirstLight Apr 2025 #1
That is horrible! CTyankee Apr 2025 #2
The place I went to was independent living, so you can come and go without anybody noticing. kerry-is-my-prez Apr 2025 #7
The thing was is it looked all nice and cute but it wasn't FirstLight Apr 2025 #14
A couple of thoughts from my experience Raven123 Apr 2025 #3
No dementia with me or hubby, thank god. CTyankee Apr 2025 #4
Maybe it dependson the facity... electric_blue68 Apr 2025 #21
You have to go to a nursing home or locked facility for that. kerry-is-my-prez Apr 2025 #8
Not in all cases. Raven123 Apr 2025 #9
I'd ask about care giver to client ratio, their ability to offer healthy or special meals for specific health conditions MLAA Apr 2025 #5
Not just the ratios, but the certification levels Bluetus Apr 2025 #13
I looked into a few. I went through a service "a Place for Mom." kerry-is-my-prez Apr 2025 #6
Do they have nurses and can the nurses or the techs applegrove Apr 2025 #10
I have no advice but wish you good luck with this, CTyankee. Keep us posted on how it goes. Scrivener7 Apr 2025 #11
The for-profit ones have the least amount of interest in your care and the Wonder Why Apr 2025 #12
Everything mentioned here is good. Figarosmom Apr 2025 #15
Hmmm, first Good Luck!.... electric_blue68 Apr 2025 #16
All that sounds fine to me. One question: are you there with your partner or alone? CTyankee Apr 2025 #17
I'm there on my own. But I get what you mean.... electric_blue68 Apr 2025 #20
My fil stayed at a home that took care of elderly people as long as they were ambulatory, cksmithy Apr 2025 #18
Does the staff know the residents' names? Torchlight Apr 2025 #19
Adding...we can mostly come and go as we please but they generally want people back in by 11Pish latest. electric_blue68 Apr 2025 #22
I had to find assisted living for my dad mnhtnbb Apr 2025 #23
Thanks for the info and great questions! CTyankee Apr 2025 #24
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