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BlueWaveNeverEnd

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57. Women marry a man with kids and are shocked when he shifts all child care to him

Thu Jun 4, 2026, 02:05 PM

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On the days he has custody of the kids, he is sleeping late or going off to golf. Women have to put their foot down or divorce to get out of being the default parent

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"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." [View all] Collimator Jun 3 OP

Bookmarked!!! IA8IT Jun 3 #1

Most Women sit around watching "A brighter Day" ..polishing their nails... chouchou Jun 3 #2

What is "A brighter Day"? TIA Celerity Jun 3 #15

A reference to the "soap operas" that women supposedly have nothing niyad Jun 3 #16

never heard of it Celerity Jun 3 #20

I had never heard of that one, either, so I looked it up. Wayyyyyyyyyy niyad Jun 3 #23

One of the ridiculous daytime Dramas that could have wasted one's life away. chouchou Jun 3 #37

I've never been a huge fan PatSeg Jun 4 #47

Unfortunately, Your words are True. chouchou Jun 4 #49

And guess what types of people PatSeg Jun 4 #50

My husband and I were invited to a dinner, the first time we saw that.. chouchou Jun 4 #60

I never understood the appeal PatSeg Jun 4 #65

Do you remember ... oldsoldierfadingfast Jun 4 #62

Oh dear PatSeg Jun 4 #64

Will the Democrats campaign on that issue? MustLoveBeagles Jun 3 #3

Symptom of a bigger issue Lithos Jun 3 #5

Yes it is. OldBaldy1701E Jun 4 #42

A smart candidate would Jilly_in_VA Jun 4 #52

Spot on. Raven123 Jun 3 #4

So Far Timewas Jun 3 #6

Until the 70's, women could do little financially on their own. paleotn Jun 3 #25

Yep. My mother won't bank with one of the major American banks because of a grudge related to that. RockRaven Jun 3 #31

Same thing happened to my spouse in 1986 Farmer-Rick Jun 4 #44

I lived those days Lifeafter70 Jun 3 #33

BTW StoolPigeon Jun 3 #7

Oh right... men have nothing but problems getting a lawyer! ihaveaquestion Jun 3 #9

Dear Goddess, it is very disappointing to see that sort of thing on a niyad Jun 3 #12

Being a single parent H2O Man Jun 3 #19

Lawyers won't take your money? Oh really. paleotn Jun 3 #26

Sounds serious Torchlight Jun 3 #28

Men can't afford lawyers? johnp3907 Jun 3 #35

And play mommy with benefits to an adult spouse. xuplate Jun 3 #8

OMG! After spending all day trying to find the wallet slightlv Jun 3 #17

huggggggggs, my friend. Your DU family is here, so lean as hard as niyad Jun 3 #21

I feel it for you malaise Jun 3 #22

So sorry. paleotn Jun 3 #27

We are here for you, V SheltieLover Jun 3 #30

If you have a healthcare provider you regularly talk to Sympthsical Jun 3 #32

Thanks... slightlv Jun 4 #38

So pleased to hear this Sympthsical Jun 4 #40

Same here in reverse - playing parent to a 5 year old wife who is 82. Aussie105 Jun 4 #41

I hear you. Friends we've had for 20 years slightlv Jun 4 #59

A humble suggestion ... if he keeps losing his wallet FakeNoose Jun 4 #45

THAT's not a bad idea!!!! (LOL) slightlv Jun 4 #68

Slightly... CousinIT Jun 4 #46

Is the VA program mesnt for the vet who's the slightlv Jun 4 #58

The VA Caregiver Support Program is for caregivers of veterans CousinIT Jun 4 #61

Opposite here, as we were in most of life. slightlv Jun 4 #69

I feel for you; I went thru the dementia caretaker twice. The first time was with my mother. state of stupid Jun 4 #55

I went through this with my Mom, too... slightlv Jun 4 #70

My heart goes out to you. xuplate Jun 4 #66

my brother coached the men's company softball team Skittles Jun 3 #10

Was watching a comedy routine Nittersing Jun 4 #48

heh Skittles Jun 4 #67

And then get no credit for either and blamed for everything Tumbulu Jun 3 #11

And that is putting it VERY politely. niyad Jun 3 #13

Unless you believe the "rumors" that Harris actually won. Which I do. slightlv Jun 3 #18

I mean...everyone is. It's just that women, for the most part, picked up the slack for some time, and now are not. WhiskeyGrinder Jun 3 #14

As a single father who raised three daughters BeneteauBum Jun 3 #24

Thank you so much for including the video link. I will look at it later, niyad Jun 3 #29

"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." DET Jun 3 #34

GREAT and VERY TRUE line! Jack Valentino Jun 3 #36

"The mental load" women try to explain to men that they are carrying the mental load BlueWaveNeverEnd Jun 4 #39

Yep. Diamond_Dog Jun 4 #51

Women marry a man with kids and are shocked when he shifts all child care to him BlueWaveNeverEnd Jun 4 #57

And society suffers from the epidemic of unparented kids. live love laugh Jun 4 #43

My wife and I just passed 30 years of marriage in March of this year... Moostache Jun 4 #53

Elizabeth Warren points out the "two-income trap"... gulliver Jun 4 #54

I think the biggest problem is the exploitative nature of work now. LT Barclay Jun 4 #56

A recommendation to all DUers ... oldsoldierfadingfast Jun 4 #63