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Joinfortmill

(21,041 posts)
13. This is so fucking maddening... My story
Fri Mar 20, 2026, 08:51 AM
20 hrs ago

I'll begin at the end. I have a passport, so I'm fine. But my parents divorced when I was very young and my mother remarried. My step-father adopted me and my last name was changed. Actually, they changed the spelling of my first name, also by adding an additional letter. Luckily for me, my parents kept the adoption papers and the name change and I now have them.

Later I married and divorced. I took my maiden name back, thank God, or I'd probably be in a damn mess now shuffling all the paperwork around: birth certificate, adoption papers with name change, marriage certificate, divorce decree. My advice to women, especially with all this, is to keep your maiden name, at least for legal purposes.

I hate these horrible people. I just hate them.


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In Virginia you get it via the Health Department's Office of Vital Records Yonnie3 21 hrs ago #1
My late mother was born at home on the family farm Tanuki 20 hrs ago #19
That is a fascinating record of history and life at that time and place. erronis 19 hrs ago #47
I have the original which is on what seems to be tissue paper. It spells my middle name wrong and has bugged me all of efhmc 16 hrs ago #55
I needed to get a copy a short time ago. It was an easy process and took only a few weeks. Do it now! Scrivener7 21 hrs ago #2
Certified copies of birth certificates will have the raised seal on the paper bucolic_frolic 21 hrs ago #3
Many of those are likewise unacceptable today. hunter 20 hrs ago #9
Wow, that is really unfair. They roll ya to make money. /nt bucolic_frolic 20 hrs ago #10
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT!!! 4bonhoffer 21 hrs ago #4
You get it from the state, not the hospital Prairie Gates 21 hrs ago #5
Yes. We need to be prepared for shenanigans! Easterncedar 21 hrs ago #6
This was my proposal to my senators this morning: otchmoson 21 hrs ago #7
IN some states you can get it from the town in which you were born. 3Hotdogs 21 hrs ago #8
That's how it is in NJ Mossfern 19 hrs ago #22
Or from the county radical noodle 19 hrs ago #32
This is the problem. Each state does it differently. travelingthrulife 19 hrs ago #43
I would think fingerprints and toeprints would work. They don't change much with age, except to grow larger. nt eppur_se_muova 8 hrs ago #56
Will these documents be required when we vote or only when someone registers to vote? Katinfl 20 hrs ago #11
It appears that it'd be only required to register Kaleva 20 hrs ago #18
Yes but DownriverDem 19 hrs ago #30
I don't think it does, but I remember reading that if you hadn't voted within a year they take you travelingthrulife 19 hrs ago #44
Here's what I found Kaleva 18 hrs ago #50
It isn't law and likely never will be. n/t valleyrogue 19 hrs ago #28
I never thought pedocon would ever get elected. mobeau69 19 hrs ago #36
I agree. Katinfl 19 hrs ago #42
It is clearly a poll tax. Why is this even a thing our supposed Constitutional travelingthrulife 19 hrs ago #45
Two GOP senators have said they're voting no. Wednesdays 17 hrs ago #53
Trump wants it required for both Random Boomer 19 hrs ago #33
Birth Certificate Complications TheJillMill 20 hrs ago #12
This is so fucking maddening... My story Joinfortmill 20 hrs ago #13
I kept my last name because I liked it. I was surprised to hear how much travelingthrulife 19 hrs ago #48
We got ours for 7 dollars a copy Emile 20 hrs ago #14
Years ago moniss 20 hrs ago #15
I had to learn that years ago, the first time I needed it. ananda 20 hrs ago #16
After 9/11 my birth certificate was declared invalid by the State of NJ Jersey Devil 20 hrs ago #17
Same FalloutShelter 19 hrs ago #31
yup discovered just that myself about 20 years ago when I was getting my passport. nt Javaman 20 hrs ago #20
My neighbor just went to get his at the county courthouse. Midnight Writer 20 hrs ago #21
Many people do not live anywhere near the county they were born in. hunter 17 hrs ago #52
It's not that easy and be prepared to pay AverageOldGuy 19 hrs ago #23
If this passes, the mess it will create (intentionally of course) will be significant themaguffin 19 hrs ago #24
Same with me DownriverDem 19 hrs ago #25
Yes. I keep screaming at tv when some advocate fails to state clearly CERTIFIED BIRTH CERTIFICATE hlthe2b 19 hrs ago #26
The SAVE Act isn't law and likely never will be. valleyrogue 19 hrs ago #27
"Likely" isn't very reassuring Random Boomer 19 hrs ago #37
Two GOP senators have said they're voting no. Murkowski and Tillis. Wednesdays 17 hrs ago #54
After reading the comments crud 19 hrs ago #29
My hospital B.C. says "Compliments of the PET Milk Company "! flor-de-jasmim 19 hrs ago #34
In Oregon, a birth certificate and a certificate of live birth are the same thing. valleyrogue 19 hrs ago #35
Correct. You need a certificate of LIVE birth. New Breed Leader 19 hrs ago #38
FYI, the bill does not require already registered voters to re-register and show the documentation.. Wiz Imp 19 hrs ago #39
CDC list of links for each state to get certified copied of vital records Attilatheblond 19 hrs ago #40
Now I know why my state clerk didn't like my bc for my fancy drivers license yaesu 19 hrs ago #41
Birth Certificate cost by state: Wiz Imp 19 hrs ago #46
Born in 52. Got the state (pa) certifed BS in 84. Went to get a passport last summer and this one was not accepted. twodogsbarking 18 hrs ago #49
It can be really difficult...!!!! Sancho 18 hrs ago #51
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