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Squaredeal

(724 posts)
105. My first wife kept her family name.
Fri Mar 20, 2026, 07:46 AM
Yesterday

She only moved to my state as an adult. “How would my friends find me?”, she asked. Later, when she started a high school reunion organization, her biggest problem was locating her married female high school classmates, who were scattered over the country, having only been temporarily together as children of military parents from throughout the U.S.
I suggested to my current wife that she not change her name of her former husband. “Why make issues for yourself with Social Security and identity at this time in your life?”, I said. Later, after reading about the necessity of having a Real ID to possibly vote as a woman whose name doesn’t match her birth certificate and our state deadline to apply for it, she did. Now, she had a problem with her ex’s name . Being a “Saint”, some of her documents show a space between the prefix St. and the rest of the name, while others combine the St with the rest of the name. That raised a red flag, requiring more documentation to settle it.
I think that the underlying purpose of requiring a “real” identification is to create turmoil at the polls so that there’s long lines to discourage voting. Prohibiting mail-in voting just adds more voters to those lines. Then there’s the issue of states purging their voter lists so that to reregister, all those identity requirements come into play. Having the post office now delaying date stamping those allowed mail-in ballots until they reach a designated regional distribution PO would invalidate many of those allowed “last minute” votes. Voter lists show the party identification so it’s also easy to challenge those voters of the party not in power to keep them from voting.
It’s a known fact that in midterm elections the incumbency is at risk of becoming the minority as more disgruntled citizens come out to vote.

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Who will be training poll workers how to authenticate birth certificates? Tim S Thursday #1
Need the birth certificate to register to vote Kaleva Thursday #61
We Have Our BCs ProfessorGAC Thursday #2
When all this nonsense started redstatebluegirl Thursday #55
My Passport Expired ProfessorGAC Thursday #56
Please get her a real id! redstatebluegirl Thursday #57
Real ID does not prove citizenship, Ms. Toad Yesterday #94
And yet, to get a Real ID Bettie Yesterday #100
No. Citizenship isn't required to get a RealID. Ms. Toad Yesterday #108
No, it isn't Bettie Yesterday #109
I was explaining why they can't use RealID for voter registration/reregistration under the Save Act - Ms. Toad 22 hrs ago #110
The weird part is that the rules vary from state to state Bettie 21 hrs ago #114
I said that in the first post you responded to. Ms. Toad 19 hrs ago #117
Those are 'Enhanced ID'. In New York at least, they cost $30 more than Real ID; and both are still being issued lostnfound 18 hrs ago #118
It Was A Tangential Point ProfessorGAC Yesterday #106
Only 5 states have a real id that certifies citizenship UpInArms Yesterday #101
I had to get a recertified one from Ohio last year underpants Thursday #3
New York State took 6 months & cost over $70 Tim S Thursday #5
Yeah I knew someone who discovered his name was misspelled underpants Thursday #17
You got off lucky with that price tonkatoy8888 Thursday #35
Yes they will. Funny I haven't heard that discussed much underpants Thursday #41
That would be an issue for me. Ms. Toad Yesterday #95
And those of us women who grew up with the tradition of taking husband's surname are gonna have to fight to vote Attilatheblond Thursday #4
And if you married more than once it's even more of a battle. quaint Thursday #29
Took first husband's surname because that was the general rule way back then Attilatheblond Thursday #58
My first wife kept her family name. Squaredeal Yesterday #105
I renewed my passport last year. Ritabert Thursday #6
I know where my bc is get the red out Thursday #7
Would I still have to get a passport to vote? EarthAbides Thursday #8
If you have an Enhanced ID with a flag -- not a regular REAL ID with a star -- pnwmom Thursday #47
That's what I've told my daughter. bamagal62 Thursday #63
I have both. nt doc03 Thursday #9
I carry both (or a copy) with me at all times. Even in California. usonian Thursday #10
Me too, copies, California, skin. quaint Thursday #30
Good luck evading the skin police. And congratulations on hitting the 5000 post milestone. usonian Thursday #32
In my safe at home, right where it should be - along with the passports. PeaceWave Thursday #11
I have the birth certificate and passport in my lockbox. MineralMan Thursday #12
California foothills, a "go bag" is part of life. usonian Thursday #34
In 2019, my dad passed away from Alzheimers. His documentation, DL, birth cert, SS card etc were long missing. My sister FSogol Thursday #13
My grandfather had three different birth dates on his official documents. hunter Yesterday #91
... 2naSalit Thursday #14
OP, do you know what county and state you were born in? PeaceWave Thursday #15
My birth certificate name doesn't match the name I've used since I was 4 yrs old. pat_k Thursday #16
This is worrisome. Your case is exactly the kind that could be affected by the SAVE Act... PeaceWave Thursday #18
My sister got her first passport in the name she always used with just an affidavit from my mom. pat_k Thursday #26
pat_k..your situation is just like mine. I had to get a family lawyer and all my papers together and let a judge Deuxcents Thursday #31
Name change by usage is perfectly legal. pat_k Thursday #37
If they're gonna require this, then they should extend the hours or make it simpler. What a hassle Deuxcents Thursday #49
I had the same problem and couldn't get a enhanced license ribrepin Thursday #71
Interesting. pat_k Thursday #85
I worked on getting a name change through the courts for years ribrepin Yesterday #98
My situation is somewhat similar - I have a birth certificate that bears no resemblance to my current name TBF Thursday #87
I have an enhanced drivers license in Michigan that is usable as id. Srkdqltr Thursday #19
Anticipating this chicanery my folks got me an official copy... Hugin Thursday #20
Sounds like my then 73 year old Mom carrying around her original Central American passport... PeaceWave Thursday #25
aren't you the one who said what's the problem with showing ID? Skittles Thursday #48
Okay, first off, you're entirely too angry. Second, I once asked the question... PeaceWave Thursday #67
Anyone who is not 'entirely too angry' is perhaps not paying enough attention.... Jack Valentino Thursday #69
My advice...Know what you want to be angry about and who you want to direct that anger at. PeaceWave Thursday #70
The same to you! Jack Valentino Thursday #74
oh there is ANOTHER option Skittles Thursday #76
DAMN straight Skittles Thursday #78
and in this context, sounds a little bit like 'mansplaining'.... amirite or Jack Valentino Yesterday #88
DU is my oasis from repuke garbage Skittles Yesterday #89
if you are ANYTHING but VERY ANGRY right now Skittles Thursday #75
See Post 70 PeaceWave Thursday #77
PASS Skittles Thursday #79
WEAK. Jack Valentino Yesterday #90
probably busy with their "$3 meal" Skittles Yesterday #92
I have my birth certificate. City Lights Thursday #21
I can. ananda Thursday #22
I have mine. Faux pas Thursday #23
I do SocialDemocrat61 Thursday #24
I have a birth certificate and a passport. greatauntoftriplets Thursday #27
Had to send away for a certified certificate to get my cachukis Thursday #28
Me, because I did membership for DAR last year obamanut2012 Thursday #33
I can, and I have a current passport. maxsolomon Thursday #36
Write away for the birth certificate now. Mine came in just a couple of weeks, though it cost $40. Scrivener7 Thursday #38
I have Rebl2 Thursday #39
This message was self-deleted by its author Doodley Thursday #40
I thought married women were more likely to vote Republican... PeaceWave Thursday #45
NOT IN THE NEXT ELECTION Skittles Thursday #82
Not black women Keepthesoulalive Yesterday #96
ACTUALLY, 'married women' according to polls are MUCH more likely to vote Republican, Jack Valentino Thursday #73
Newsflash: The birth certificate your mom saved from your original birthday doesn't count. milestogo Thursday #42
When markodochartaigh Thursday #43
i think i can manage rampartd Thursday #44
I was born in Germany while my father was stationed there during the cold war LetMyPeopleVote Thursday #46
Nope, neither one Bayard Thursday #50
There would be court challenges galore. Elections are state matters. valleyrogue Thursday #51
I've had reason to peruse old census records, 1800-say 1950 bucolic_frolic Thursday #52
I had my original birth certificate vankuria Thursday #53
I have an up-to-date passport Maeve Thursday #54
I have my BC due to having to get a REAL ID. Jacson6 Thursday #59
Same here. moondust Thursday #80
I can. 🙂 nt Raine Thursday #60
Mine is in a file in the office Kaleva Thursday #62
We have important papers file Tree Lady Thursday #64
I took the Girl Scout motto - "Be Prepared" - as my life plan Totally Tunsie Thursday #65
I just ordered a new one for one of my children Melon Thursday #66
I have a copy of my birth certificate, but not the original--- nor do I have a passport... Jack Valentino Thursday #68
Churches Avalon Sparks Thursday #72
I have both, but I need to renew my passport karynnj Thursday #81
Since Covid I have Roc2020 Thursday #83
In anticipation Traildogbob Thursday #84
Problem is many only have the hospital issue not official document... Historic NY Thursday #86
mine is in the file cabinet right next to this chair yellowdogintexas Yesterday #93
Thinking about the SAVE act ironman99 Yesterday #97
Nope, I've only seen it once when my mother took me to get my driver's license Rhiannon12866 Yesterday #99
The Answer SHOULD BE 100%! ForeGoneLegsBirne Yesterday #102
To collect Social Security, you will need to prove who you are. Croney Yesterday #103
I have all of my family's birth certificates Bettie Yesterday #104
I carry an expired passport with me but does that count? LSparkle Yesterday #107
My wife and I were both born in 1947 PCB66 21 hrs ago #111
My passport and birth certificate are in the same desk on which my PC resides Shrek 21 hrs ago #112
I do, but that's only because I needed it as part of the dependent verification package for haele 21 hrs ago #113
I live in the EU, so I need my passport constantly DFW 21 hrs ago #115
Top drawer of the file cabinet,,,, lastlib 19 hrs ago #116
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