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jfz9580m

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44. All the best
Mon Mar 9, 2026, 10:33 PM
Monday

I wish you all the best. My ex and I split up because I came rather late to the realization that I was a frustrated maternal type (upto just 1 kid) and when my ex just nixed the idea, I realized one’s subconscious mind has its own operation in the background and while I always knew I could not balance a stem job with a kid with my talent and skill level and I would never give up my job, I had unconsciously married him still factoring in what a good dad he would have been. After that..these days I finally pay more attention to my subconscious mind. We got amicably divorced and still talk every day.
He is pretty much the only person I ever seriously dated.

It is far from dating and more a Mulder-Scully type of professional relationship (which our tacky former employer would be unable to comprehend, being used to those Si Valley perverts more than natural scientists).

But I asked a male scientist I met in 2011 (well after my ex husband and I had decided to split up and were merely delaying the final wrench) over email (cced to our stupid admin and my mentor) to get back in touch with me as I am preparing to file malpractice and misconduct allegations against the school. And want to talk to him and give him an in person or over Zoom headsup so those idiots don’t yet again try to shift blame using their pathetic corporate strategies. But they are awful and would use stupid strategies at a time when selective “kobayashi maru” is the way forward.

A less positive story than yours MarineCombatEngineer, but that is how Ol’jfz9580m rolls .

How is your granddaughter? Did she end up finishing her first job? Those vehicles are scary to drive. I never liked driving much even in our old Maruti Suzuki I think it was. It is a small car. But the streets where I live in India are pretty narrow and difficult to navigate even when thankfully desolate. So to her.

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Just be yourself is the best advice. NoRethugFriends Monday #1
Quoting a character in a book: be yourself, everyone else is taken. question everything Monday #40
I LOVE that Mira 14 hrs ago #137
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NoRethugFriends is absolutely right! Be yourself. And that includes be honest. CaliforniaPeggy Monday #3
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She's Portuguese so I'm thinking of taking her into Phoenix to a Portuguese restaurant to dine, MarineCombatEngineer Yesterday #96
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It's not until this Saturday. nt MarineCombatEngineer 15 hrs ago #135
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