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Oeditpus Rex

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72. My mom had it both ways

Tue Sep 23, 2025, 11:38 PM

Sep 23

I have a sister who's two years older. She was bookish and satisfied with tee vee for entertainment; didn't go out much. I was always messin' around with friends and most stuff came naturally or easily to me. So I got "Why can't you be more like your sister?" and she got "Why can't you be more like your brother?"

Also, mom, in case you forgot, we were both adopted.

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Are you autistic? I am. [View all] hunter Sep 22 OP

This was an excellent read and insightful. Thank you. chowder66 Sep 22 #1

KNR and bookmarking. niyad Sep 23 #66

Probably. canetoad Sep 22 #2

Recommended. H2O Man Sep 22 #3

DURec leftstreet Sep 22 #4

Yes Timewas Sep 22 #5

This is such a hateful, ignorant, regressive period in history... hlthe2b Sep 22 #6

Thank you for sharing your story mr715 Sep 22 #7

Thank you for writing this. milestogo Sep 22 #8

Great post Wild blueberry Sep 22 #9

Thank you mountain grammy Sep 22 #10

I am, too, and I feel for you EnergizedLib Sep 22 #11

Yes Oneironaut Sep 22 #12

Hunter, thank you for sharing your experience Ilikepurple Sep 22 #13

Thank you for this. yardwork Sep 22 #14

K&R mvd Sep 22 #15

This message was self-deleted by its author Prairie_Seagull Sep 23 #50

I have Asperger's - my inability to read ppl led me to Psy. alittlelark Sep 22 #16

I'm an Asp. ChazInAz Sep 23 #55

How did you overcome writing "like an ESL student with a head injury?" Sogo Sep 22 #17

I started college as an engineering major and switched to Biology... hunter Sep 22 #22

I suspect I may be on the spectrum. area51 Sep 22 #18

Thank you for every bit of that and sharing it here. Maru Kitteh Sep 22 #19

The kids told me that I am on the spectrum. Grolph_ Sep 22 #20

For what it's worth, I think your writing is excellent. 3Hotdogs Sep 22 #21

Very insightful, hunter... slightlv Sep 22 #23

Covid DID its best, for now. vanlassie Sep 22 #24

Sharing your story and experience has done us all a real service. Thanks ❤️ MLAA Sep 22 #25

Apparently me too. KentuckyWoman Sep 22 #26

Sincerely thank you for this Sympthsical Sep 22 #27

Excellent. Thanks. I'm definitely on several spectrums. Fortunate to have found my way. Need more for Silent Type Sep 22 #28

I am not, but I love someone who is. FM123 Sep 23 #29

Thank you posting proud patriot Sep 23 #30

You write very well for someone who is 'autistic'. Jack Valentino Sep 23 #31

RFK jr is a total dick and a nasty moron. Would be nice to go back a couple of years when I didn't know he existed. Dave Bowman Sep 23 #32

In the end, we're all, each, a bag of tricks... BurnDoubt Sep 23 #33

Yes. meadowlander Sep 23 #34

Thank you for this, meadowlander Hekate Sep 23 #37

I am impressed by your strength Easterncedar Sep 23 #40

This description is so helpful Alice Kramden Sep 23 #41

Thank you for posting this LetMyPeopleVote Sep 23 #53

Thank you for sharing meadowlander Ilikepurple Sep 23 #71

Excellent post. markodochartaigh Sep 23 #35

Thank you for teaching us, hunter. I remember the books that blamed "refrigerator mothers" Hekate Sep 23 #36

I gather most of us are, to some extent Oeditpus Rex Sep 23 #38

My experience is similar to yours Mossfern Sep 23 #49

My mom had it both ways Oeditpus Rex Sep 23 #72

Thank you dearly, hunter, for sharing your experiences and perspective. It is laudable and helpful KitFox Sep 23 #39

This is a wise and helpful thread Alice Kramden Sep 23 #42

Raises hand. nt. druidity33 Sep 23 #43

Autism Mr.Bee Sep 23 #44

K&R spanone Sep 23 #45

Yep!...along with most of my family... MiHale Sep 23 #46

Thank you for sharing your story, hunter Clouds Passing Sep 23 #47

Probably Lithos Sep 23 #48

I put my parents through hell and I was completely oblivious to that. hunter Sep 23 #59

Thank you for your story LetMyPeopleVote Sep 23 #51

Pretty sure I am. no_hypocrisy Sep 23 #52

High functioning autism is in our family, so I'm very familiar with it. I have a cousin whose parents didn't understand Martin68 Sep 23 #54

Thank you for sharing your life here. You are a fantastic writer. 1WorldHope Sep 23 #56

Thank you for posting--glad autism is being discussed now by people with lived experience. Timeflyer Sep 23 #57

This sounds just like my son, but currently he only has a diagnosis of ADHD LT Barclay Sep 23 #58

One of my kids is "on the spectrum" and now a successful adult. hunter Sep 23 #60

Thanks anyway. LT Barclay Sep 23 #70

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probably AllaN01Bear Sep 23 #62

My daughter is. Pacifist Patriot Sep 23 #63

There are strong upsides to having autistic friends PurgedVoter Sep 23 #64

terribly functional so not considered. pansypoo53219 Sep 23 #65

found out I was Aspie when I was about 67 or so..Now 77. LiberalArkie Sep 23 #67

Thank you for your honesty -- your voice matters youssef5070 Sep 23 #68

I think we are all born and live in our own world for as long as possible. Aussie105 Sep 23 #69