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What is 'consent-baiting,' and is it a problem for LGBTQ+ daters?
Although this article specifically sites this behavior as it pertains to the LGBT+ community it contains information that is applicable to all parties involved in and seeking, intimate relationships.
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What is 'consent-baiting,' and is it a problem for LGBTQ+ daters?
Queer sex and relationship experts weigh in on this toxic manipulation tactic.
By Ariel Messman-Rucker
November 21 2025 / 5:48 PM
At this point, you’ve probably heard of the new toxic dating trends like “shrekking,” “monkey-barring,” and “ghostlighting,” but now there is a new, even more insidious dating technique out there. Snip...
“Consent-baiting” is a disturbing new trend where people are using manipulation to get exactly what they want in the bedroom. Snip...
Essentially, you are “baiting” someone into giving “consent” when they wouldn’t otherwise. It’s toxic, abusive, and dangerous. “Baiting is when a person will say or do deliberately provocative things in order to get an emotional reaction and outburst from a person,” Sinclaire explains. “This is to get the person being baited to feel off kilter, confused, emotional, and have less clear thinking. When we bring the word consent into play we see how a person is baited into giving consent.” Snip...People do this because they feel like their needs for sexual gratification are more important than the other person’s desires or emotional well being. Snip...
“People that do this often have a sense of entitlement to the people around them,” Sinclaire says. “They feel that they should be able to have sex with the person they are baiting and that the person’s wellbeing or feelings are secondary, if a concern at all, to their sexual entitlement.”
But not everyone is consent-baiting intentionally, some people may not realize they are applying undue pressure because of their own dating history. “Sometimes it’s intentional manipulation, but often it stems from a lack of education about boundaries and emotional responsibility,” Founds explains. “Queer people navigating identity, past rejection, or trauma may blur the lines between affirmation and pressure — but intent doesn’t erase impact.”
Signs you are being consent-baited:
1. Making you feel guilty
Snip...more...with hot links at:
https://www.pride.com/answers-advice/love-and-sex/what-is-consent-baiting#rebelltitem1
Queer sex and relationship experts weigh in on this toxic manipulation tactic.
By Ariel Messman-Rucker
November 21 2025 / 5:48 PM
At this point, you’ve probably heard of the new toxic dating trends like “shrekking,” “monkey-barring,” and “ghostlighting,” but now there is a new, even more insidious dating technique out there. Snip...
“Consent-baiting” is a disturbing new trend where people are using manipulation to get exactly what they want in the bedroom. Snip...
Essentially, you are “baiting” someone into giving “consent” when they wouldn’t otherwise. It’s toxic, abusive, and dangerous. “Baiting is when a person will say or do deliberately provocative things in order to get an emotional reaction and outburst from a person,” Sinclaire explains. “This is to get the person being baited to feel off kilter, confused, emotional, and have less clear thinking. When we bring the word consent into play we see how a person is baited into giving consent.” Snip...People do this because they feel like their needs for sexual gratification are more important than the other person’s desires or emotional well being. Snip...
“People that do this often have a sense of entitlement to the people around them,” Sinclaire says. “They feel that they should be able to have sex with the person they are baiting and that the person’s wellbeing or feelings are secondary, if a concern at all, to their sexual entitlement.”
But not everyone is consent-baiting intentionally, some people may not realize they are applying undue pressure because of their own dating history. “Sometimes it’s intentional manipulation, but often it stems from a lack of education about boundaries and emotional responsibility,” Founds explains. “Queer people navigating identity, past rejection, or trauma may blur the lines between affirmation and pressure — but intent doesn’t erase impact.”
Signs you are being consent-baited:
1. Making you feel guilty
Snip...more...with hot links at:
https://www.pride.com/answers-advice/love-and-sex/what-is-consent-baiting#rebelltitem1