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rickyhall

(5,503 posts)
Sun Nov 30, 2025, 06:50 PM Sunday

I may be just fool for love

About a month ago a girl contacted through Facebook. So, I thought, "What the hell? I'm a lonely old man of 70, what could it hurt. I'll cut her off when she starts talking $$. So I've gone along for a few weeks. She sounds like she is madly in love with me. I cannot fathom why. I'm guessing she's in her 20s. Anyway, reading her chats she seems wonderful but clues get through from the things she types than bring me pause. She told me she was in West Africa with her Nigerian grandmother. She seems to type beautiful things to me but I there not her's. When she actually communicate something to me it's barely understandable. Now I don't care. I'm not racist, though I was raised by racists. I'm not prejudiced. I happen to be mostly Western European but for most of my life I was told I was part Cherokee until my sister discovered I'm not. I was raised Jewish but my mother converted after my birth so only the Reforms accept me. So genes don't bother me, she's a beautiful girl. Another reason why I can't figure the attraction.

She has finally asked for money, but mostly for Christmas, so I'm using it as a test. Even if I lose, I can afford it and I half expect it. But if there's a chance. I know what you're thinking, "what an idiot" but I have a plan that may already be broken by that idiot in the White House. The plan is for her to come here to meet me, but now Trump says he'll stop everybody coming from what he called "shit-hole" countries like Nigeria, even though it's not. I think it's a fascinating country myself.

I just felt like telling this little story to somebody. People that know me would probably give me a hard time. It's just that I've been alone so long pretty words and promises from a beautiful girl are really hard to resist.


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markie

(23,780 posts)
2. lonely is tough
Sun Nov 30, 2025, 07:03 PM
Sunday

but this person will not bring you happiness or comfort.... possibility? find an AI girlfriend... at least you know who she is and you know she won't need money
Good luck and maybe find a book club or other hobby group

wcmagumba

(5,370 posts)
3. I suggest you go to a local UU Church, they really are not dogmatic or even "churchy" at all, you might meet someone..
Sun Nov 30, 2025, 07:03 PM
Sunday

Another one would be a local Unity Church of Christ...they too are not particularly dogmatic but are a little more "out there" with the love bombing...Both of these groups were always friendly...and I'm an agnostic (aka, wimpy atheist). I have attended a local Episcopal Church and they were fine, more traditional Xian with lots of up and downs (hard on the knees) but not pushy. The local Quaker "meetings" I've been to were fine as well, mostly just sitting quietly with your thoughts in a group...Went to a Zen meditation group a few times, again it was okay...possibilities for meeting someone you may like...

Edit: All of these meetings had some sort of discussion, usually afterwards which helped with getting out of your/my shell...

rickyhall

(5,503 posts)
13. That's the problem around here is the only place to meet a woman is Walmart or a fucking church. I do not do churches.
Sun Nov 30, 2025, 09:30 PM
Sunday

Cirsium

(3,244 posts)
7. The secret to survivin' is knowin' what to throw away
Sun Nov 30, 2025, 07:43 PM
Sunday

You got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away, and know when to run.

Norrrm

(3,624 posts)
8. What does your internet sweetie look like? Don't be surprised if they turn out to be a skinny Nigerian dude.
Sun Nov 30, 2025, 07:49 PM
Sunday

What does your internet sweetie look like?

They may be a doctor, or a hunk military man, or a supermodel woman/rich widow, or some rich businessman. But most assuredly they'll be overseas, somewhere out of range of a personal meeting. Charming of course. And most times you won't be able to video chat with them.
You'll get a picture - someone's picture. Don't be surprised if they turn out to be a skinny Nigerian dude.

They called them clients, not victims.

These scammers are amazingly open about how they are scamming their clients. Are they convincing? They can be very convincing. One client was playing naked sex games with his 'girlfriend' who turns out to be a guy.

Their favorite clients??? Widowed/divorced....(lonely).

They have unlimited love for you. They only run out of love when you quit sending them money... as in; when you run out of money to send.

My favorite is the fetish priestess. She has character and personality.
(Not necessarily good character)

Start watching at about the 11 minute time mark.

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Niagara

(11,240 posts)
9. You already know that you're a target by a scammer
Sun Nov 30, 2025, 09:25 PM
Sunday

Do not send this scammer any money and cut contact with them ASAP.


Instead, take the extra time in your life and join a book club, a gardening club, a dancing club (example: line dancing) take a painting class, take a cooking class, take arts and crafts class, visit art galleries, visit a senior center.

You get the idea. Get out of the house and meet a few people that you can talk to face to face. You might meet someone that could develop into a lifelong friendship. You might meet someone that could develop into a romantic relationship. Who knows.


Do not let this online scammer take advantage of you.




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