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kozar

(3,196 posts)
Thu Jul 31, 2025, 09:20 AM Yesterday

Its time, for me , to go

MrsK ,and LilBit, I still have dreams.
We, will always have thoughts, picture in my mind.
But damn, those dreams. I'm 3 years out from MrsK, a year out from LilBit.
I still have dreams,
It's part of Bereavement . Some can go through it in months, some , take years.
Just do, your schedule, of your loss

Koz.

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Its time, for me , to go (Original Post) kozar Yesterday OP
I was thinking of you last night malaise 23 hrs ago #1
Moving on when half your world suddenly isn't there is beyond difficult. rubbersole 23 hrs ago #2
I like to think of those dreams as visits BlueKota 23 hrs ago #3
I dreamed about my mother last night CanonRay 23 hrs ago #4
I lost my wife of 35 years this past June 24th. pdxflyboy 22 hrs ago #5
My sincerest sympathies Ishoutandscream2 21 hrs ago #9
I'm so sorry for your loss. hamsterjill 21 hrs ago #11
My mother died from a brain aneurysm 10 years ago.. Bozvotros 20 hrs ago #13
It can take a lot of patience to heal from such world altering losses. All you can Karadeniz 22 hrs ago #6
mom died 2002 dec 21st . just before christmas . i still hurt and miss her. AllaN01Bear 21 hrs ago #7
I love those dreams KT2000 21 hrs ago #8
Thank you Kozar, JMCKUSICK 21 hrs ago #10
Hang in there adam_vermont 21 hrs ago #12

malaise

(287,222 posts)
1. I was thinking of you last night
Thu Jul 31, 2025, 09:27 AM
23 hrs ago

We will all always have dreams of those we love forever and those who loved and love us. The pain does ease.

rubbersole

(10,180 posts)
2. Moving on when half your world suddenly isn't there is beyond difficult.
Thu Jul 31, 2025, 09:38 AM
23 hrs ago

Especially when we're in our golden years. But we do. The hole in your soul never goes away. At best, we just learn to live with it.
Blessings.

BlueKota

(4,448 posts)
3. I like to think of those dreams as visits
Thu Jul 31, 2025, 09:47 AM
23 hrs ago

from our loved ones no longer on the earthly plane, but still watching over us. Their spirits are still with you.

My Mom has been gone since 2008, and I still have dreams with her in them.

CanonRay

(15,451 posts)
4. I dreamed about my mother last night
Thu Jul 31, 2025, 10:11 AM
23 hrs ago

and she's been gone 27 years. It's just part of you. Still grieving my brother (2022) and my best friend (2024).

pdxflyboy

(869 posts)
5. I lost my wife of 35 years this past June 24th.
Thu Jul 31, 2025, 10:22 AM
22 hrs ago

Massive brain bleed stroke on the 23rd. Brain activity ceased evening of the 23rd. She was Do Not Resucitate. On 2:15pm of the 24th, I requested life support removal. My 24 year old son and I were holding her hands, talking to her and weeping. At 2:35 her breathing got shallow and her eyes opened just wide enough to see her pupils and some of that beautiful blue with that “gaze into eternity”. At 2:41, she exhaled her last shallow breath, the monitors went completely flat. The nurse checked her breathing and pulse and said “2:41”. Her funeral is August 8th, followed by internment. I will deliver her eulogy. Grief subsides a bit, then hits you, almost knocking u over. Allow it to happen. Don’t try to tough it out. It’s normal. My healing thoughts go to all of you who have suffered a loss.

hamsterjill

(16,158 posts)
11. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Thu Jul 31, 2025, 12:08 PM
21 hrs ago

Wishing you peace and comfort during this difficult time. Remember to take care of yourself.

Bozvotros

(929 posts)
13. My mother died from a brain aneurysm 10 years ago..
Thu Jul 31, 2025, 12:24 PM
20 hrs ago

It was very much as you described. Your beautiful post brought me to tears and finally some smiles at her memory. Thank you.

Karadeniz

(24,596 posts)
6. It can take a lot of patience to heal from such world altering losses. All you can
Thu Jul 31, 2025, 11:06 AM
22 hrs ago

do is just hang in there while time tries to mitigate the open wounds. Don't forget about us when you need a shoulder to cry on!!!

JMCKUSICK

(3,300 posts)
10. Thank you Kozar,
Thu Jul 31, 2025, 12:08 PM
21 hrs ago

Your message is so simple and sweet and yet incredibly wise and poignant.

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