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Siwsan

(27,736 posts)
Mon Oct 6, 2025, 12:12 PM 11 hrs ago

Here's how I dealt with last night's nightmare

In this nightmare, the 4th Reich had stated that ICE agents could get away with shooting people, just for the agent not liking what was printed on someone's sweat or tee shirt. Upon hearing this, I immediately changed into my green cargo trousers and a red tee shirt that reads 'Annibyniaeth Cymru', which translates to 'Welsh Independence'. Of course, it also features a fierce Dragon. In my dream state mind it was a challenge since I'm pretty certain none of the ICE agents read Welsh so it would confuse the hell out of them.

While the scenario was still fresh in my mind, this morning, I donned the above described outfit. Yea, I did dream about my actual clothes. Admittedly, all I did was mow the back lot but it still made me feel a tiny bit more control.

Oh, and as a follow up to the baby shower I was dreading, my former BIL and his alienating girlfriend DID attend. Before they got there I had already found a place to eat, outside. My niece was ready to give me the alert that they arrived. I had taken my 'chill pills' so I just concentrated on keeping my heart rate semi-normal. He came out and talked with me. Until he brought this ex-girlfriend back in to his life, we were as close as I am to my brother.

ANYWAY, she never came outside so I was able to eat without worrying about throwing up. When I was ready to leave, my wonderful nephew (the father to be) gave me a big hug and kiss, told me how much he loves me, and then snuck me out through the garage door so I wouldn't even have to be anywhere in her vicinity.

My brother DID go out through the house, and all she did was shoot him a really nasty look. She really hates him.

So, the whole thing exhausted me but, damn it, I did it. The mom to be was so happy I was there because she didn't expect I would, due to this female. Got a big hug from her, too.

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Here's how I dealt with last night's nightmare (Original Post) Siwsan 11 hrs ago OP
Congrats on making it to the shower! 2naSalit 9 hrs ago #1
My family certainly had my back Siwsan 9 hrs ago #2
Sounds like any... 2naSalit 9 hrs ago #3
I am glad you managed to put in an appearance as well as maintain. OldBaldy1701E 4 hrs ago #4

2naSalit

(97,979 posts)
1. Congrats on making it to the shower!
Mon Oct 6, 2025, 02:07 PM
9 hrs ago

I am like you, I would decline if someone who made my life suck when they're around was going to be there too.

Siwsan

(27,736 posts)
2. My family certainly had my back
Mon Oct 6, 2025, 02:18 PM
9 hrs ago

The kids all know why I refuse to even be in the same room as her and pretty much feel the same, although they have to put on a brave face so as not to help her in her goal to totally alienate him from them.. This female has stationed herself to be the family matriarch, despite not even remotely being a member. And, btw, that's my role.

My best friend, who is also my former sister in law, walked up and introduced herself. She got a stiff 'nice to meet you' with out even giving my friend the respect of introducing herself! Important to note that my brother and his former wife are the absolute best of friends. She comes here to visit with both of us. We all love her new husband. He came with her, last year. That's just the way this family works. SO, since my friend has known my former BIL since the early 90's, she gave him a big hug and then said to my brother 'OK, honey, let's go!" That got an additional glare.

I'm sure that female, who knew I was there, was wondering why I was invisible.

OldBaldy1701E

(9,238 posts)
4. I am glad you managed to put in an appearance as well as maintain.
Mon Oct 6, 2025, 06:45 PM
4 hrs ago

It meant a lot to her and those who love you, I am sure.

The rest can go to Huddle House.

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